What are healthier ways to soothe a child’s meltdown than handing over a device? 

Parenting Perspective 

When a child is overwhelmed and having a meltdown, it can be tempting to hand them a device for some instant quiet. While this might calm the moment, it does not teach them how to manage big emotions in a healthy way. Instead, offering genuine comfort helps them to build emotional regulation skills that will last a lifetime. . 

Stay Physically Present and Calm 

Your calm presence is a powerful tool. Simply sitting beside them, speaking in a gentle voice, and taking slow, deep breaths yourself can help to co-regulate their emotions. Your physical presence signals safety and stability without you needing to say a word. 

Offer a Sensory Anchor 

During a meltdown, a child’s nervous system is in overdrive. You can help ground them by offering a sensory anchor. This could be a favourite soft toy to hug, a weighted blanket, or a simple sensory item like a squishy ball. This physical input can help bring their system back into balance. 

Use Gentle Distraction, Not Escape 

Once the peak of the emotion has passed, you can introduce a gentle distraction. This is not about avoiding the feeling, but about easing the tension. Suggest a simple, low-demand activity like doodling, blowing bubbles, or looking out of the window to find a certain colour. 

When you help your child to settle using human connection and simple comforts, you not only resolve the immediate meltdown but also teach them safe and constructive ways to manage their distress in the future. 

Spiritual Insight 

From an Islamic perspective, we are encouraged to comfort others during their moments of difficulty and to guide them towards patience and peace with gentleness. 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Baqarah (2), Verse 153: 

‘O those of you who are believers, seek assistance (from Allah Almighty) through resilience and prayer, indeed, Allah (Almighty) is with those that are resilient.‘ 

This reminds us that turning to patience and calm reflection is an act of faith, one that invites the support and presence of Allah Almighty. 

It is recorded in Jami Tirmidhi, Hadith 2627, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘A Muslim is the one from whose tongue and hand the Muslims are safe’ 

This teaches us that controlling our own responses and ensuring our actions are gentle and safe for others is a defining quality of a believer, especially when faced with emotional challenges. 

By soothing your child with your presence and gentle guidance, you give them the priceless gift of learning that true comfort and peace can be found in human connection, understanding, and turning the heart towards Allah.