We are raising our child in a non-Muslim country. How can we stay united in teaching Islamic values under outside pressure? 

Parenting Perspective 

Raising a child with a strong Muslim identity in a non-Muslim society requires a united and intentional parenting front. When parents are aligned, the home becomes a secure anchor that protects a child from overwhelming outside pressures. 

Agree on Your Core Family Values 

The foundation of your unity is a set of shared principles. Sit down together and agree on the non-negotiable Islamic values for your family. This could include honesty, modesty, respect, and the importance of Salah. When you are both clear on your shared goals, your individual parenting styles can work in harmony towards them. 

Create an Immersive Islamic Home Environment 

Make your home a space where Islamic identity feels normal, beautiful, and effortless. This can be achieved through simple, consistent acts like playing the Adhan softly, displaying Islamic art and calligraphy, and weaving Dhikr and Duas into your daily conversations. This provides your child with a strong sense of belonging that counters the external culture. 

Prepare Them for External Pressures 

Talk openly and proactively with your child about situations where they might feel different. Role-play how to respond to questions about fasting, hijab, or not participating in certain celebrations. When you coach them with confident and polite answers, you are equipping them with the tools to navigate social pressures with grace. 

Involve Your Child in the ‘Mission’ 

Frame your family’s commitment to Islam as a special and honourable mission you are all on together. Involve your child by asking questions like, ‘How can we, as a family, show the beauty of our faith through kindness at school this week?’ When they feel they are an active part of this noble project, they carry their identity with pride, not reluctance. 

Spiritual Insight 

Islam was designed to provide guidance and strength in any context. When faith is built on a foundation of certainty and a united family front, it can thrive even amidst adversity. 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Baqarah (2), Verse 2: 

‘This is the Book about which there is no doubt, a guidance for those conscious of Allah…‘ 

This verse reminds us that our ultimate source of guidance is the Quran, a book of certainty in a world of confusion. When parents root their family values in this divine clarity, the conflicting messages of the outside world lose their power. 

The Prophet Muhammad ﷺ gave a special status to those who hold firm to their faith, even if it makes them feel different.