Our child recently started using phrases like, ‘Oh, here we go again’. Could they be mimicking our patterns of irritation? 

Parenting Perspective 

Yes, it is highly likely that your child is mimicking patterns they have observed, especially if they are using adult expressions of frustration like, “Oh, here we go again.” Children are natural imitators, not just of words but of the entire emotional context, including tone and timing. When they repeatedly see adults respond to situations with sarcasm or exasperation, they begin to model those same responses, often without fully grasping their weight. This is particularly common in homes where irritation is expressed through subtle, habitual remarks rather than loud arguments. While such phrases may seem minor, they are a reflection of an underlying emotional atmosphere where frustration has become normalised. 

Why mimicry is a form of emotional absorption 

Children do not mimic randomly; they internalise what they observe, adopting it as their emotional template for handling stress or disagreement. When a child starts to echo their parents’ expressions of tension, it should be seen as a gentle red flag. It is not a sign of disrespect, but an indication that they are absorbing the tension around them without being offered healthier scripts for communication. You can begin to shift this pattern by modelling a better way. For instance, in a moment of rising frustration, you can say aloud, “I am starting to feel overwhelmed, so I am going to take a pause before I speak.” This allows your child to witness you actively choosing calmness over reactivity. Over time, this modelling helps them replace mimicry with genuine maturity, because you are showing them a better way. 

Spiritual Insight 

In the Islamic tradition, we are held deeply accountable not only for our words but also for what we teach through our tone and habits, especially to our children. The Prophet Muhammad ﷺ consistently modelled patience and restraint in the face of irritation. He never muttered dismissively or expressed passive frustration; even when feeling strong emotions, he chose words designed to heal rather than wound. This prophetic example teaches us that every sigh and every casual phrase has an impact, particularly on the young hearts that are watching us so closely. 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Qaaf (50), Verse 18: 

‘(Man) is unable to utter a single word, without him being closely observed (and all actions being recorded)…. ‘

This verse is a powerful reminder that all our language, even when casual or reactive, carries weight. It shapes the atmosphere of our home and, in turn, the emotional habits of our children. 

It is recorded in Sahih Bukhari, Hadith 6023, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘A good word is charity. ‘

This principle includes the words we choose even when we feel irritated. Kind and measured speech is not only an act that is spiritually rewarded; it is also an act that emotionally protects those around us. So yes, it is very likely your child’s new phrases are a reflection of what they have absorbed from their environment. This should not be a cause for guilt, but rather a gentle invitation to reset the emotional rhythm of your home. With every intentional word and softened tone, you are not just changing your language; you are changing their legacy.