My child avoids physical playdates because online gaming feels easier  how do I change that gently? 

Parenting Perspective 

For a child, online gaming often feels easier than a physical playdate because it offers instant fun with low social risk. To gently encourage more in-person interaction, it is best to avoid framing it as a choice between ‘screens versus friends’. Instead, try blending their two worlds. You could arrange a short meetup with a friend that incorporates themes from their favourite game, such as a real-life building challenge or a treasure hunt. This makes the experience feel familiar while adding a fun, real-world dimension. 

Start Small and Safe 

If your child feels a little socially out of practice, it is wise to start small and keep it simple. Begin with a one-on-one playdate rather than a large group, and consider hosting it at your home where your child feels most secure. Keeping the activity short and upbeat, without a rigid structure, allows for spontaneous fun and removes the pressure that can come with a long, planned event. 

Give Ownership 

To increase their enthusiasm, give your child a sense of ownership over the playdate. Let them have a say in the planning, whether it is choosing the snacks or picking the main activity. When they feel in control, they are far less likely to feel as though they are being pushed out of their comfort zone. Over time, they will start to rediscover that in-person play offers unique rewards that screens simply cannot, such as shared laughter and physical fun. 

Spiritual Insight 

The Islamic faith places great emphasis on real-world human connection and the building of supportive, strong communities, starting with our friendships. 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Hujuraat (49), Verse 13: 

‘ O mankind, indeed, We (Allah Almighty) have created you all from one man and one woman; and placed you amongst various nations and tribes for your introduction to each other…’ 

This verse reminds us that getting to know one another is a core part of our divine purpose. While online interaction has its place, it cannot fully replace the depth and richness of real-world human connection. 

It is recorded in Sahih Bukhari, Hadith 2446, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘The believer to the believer is like a solid building, one part supporting the other.’ 

This beautiful metaphor teaches us that true friendship is about mutual support. By encouraging our children to build in-person friendships, we help them construct the foundations for these supportive bonds, which are essential for their emotional and spiritual growth.