How to Explain Why You Parent Differently 

Parenting Perspective 

Reassure Your Child and Teach Respect 

It is common for children to notice differences between families, especially when they compare their own parents with others in the community. The key here is to reassure your child that while families may do things differently, you are guided by principles you believe are right for them. This helps your child feel secure in your choices while learning respect for others. 

Acknowledge Their Observation and Frame Your Answer 

When your child asks such questions, acknowledge their observation first. You might say, ‘Yes, you are right, other dads may do things differently.’ Then explain calmly, ‘In our home, I try to do things in a way that I believe is best for you and our family.’ By framing your answer around care and responsibility rather than judgement, you affirm your role without criticising others. 

Teach That Diversity in Parenting Styles Exists 

Children also need to learn that diversity in parenting styles exists, and that does not mean one family is automatically better than another. You can help them understand that different choices come from different experiences, but in your home you choose what aligns with your values. This approach avoids shaming others while strengthening your child’s confidence in your leadership. 

Model Respect in How You Speak About Others 

By consistently modelling respect in how you speak about other parents, your child learns not to belittle others but also sees that you hold steady in your own choices. Over time, this builds both resilience and empathy in them. 

Spiritual Insight 

Differences Are Part of Allah’s Design 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al-Hujuraat (49), Verse 13: 

‘O mankind, indeed, We (Allah Almighty) have created you all from one man and one woman; and placed you amongst various nations and tribes for your introduction to each other; indeed, the best of you in the judgement of Allah (Almighty) is the one who is most virtuous.’  

This Verse reminds us that differences among people are part of Allah’s design. What truly matters is righteousness and sincerity, not uniformity. Teaching your child this helps them respect differences without feeling insecure about your family’s way.