Is it better to lead the play or follow the child’s lead?

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Insaan (76), Verse 3: ‘Indeed, We have guided him to the (the ideal) pathways; whether he shows gratitude or whether he shows ungratefulness.’ This Verse reflects a divine model of leadership that is rooted in freedom and trust. Allah Almighty provides guidance but does not impose. This principle can be lovingly mirrored in how we raise and guide our children, especially in play. It teaches that meaningful growth often happens when there is space to explore, choose, and respond with sincerity.
It is recorded in Sahih Bukhari, Hadith 5996, that holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ would gently observe children at play, offering wisdom through patience and attentiveness rather than force. His approach was to honour their process, stepping in with care rather than control. When we allow our children to lead in play, we are not relinquishing responsibility, we are modelling trust. We are helping them learn to listen to their instincts, express themselves openly, and build a strong internal compass.
This kind of leadership is subtle but deeply powerful. It reflects the Prophetic example of nurturing with presence and intention. When play is led by the child but supported by loving guidance, it becomes not just fun, but a form of education that honours their fitrah and prepares them for meaningful, spiritually grounded growth.