I often find myself envying other couples and hiding that ache from my child. Is it wrong to want my child to see love when I do not feel it anymore? 

Parenting Perspective 

A Human Longing 

No, it is not wrong, it is deeply human. Wanting your child to witness love, even if you do not feel it yourself, demonstrates your concern for their emotional well-being. You are not being hypocritical. You are grieving the difference between the love you hoped to have and the reality you now face. However, children do not need to witness flawless love to grow up emotionally healthy. What they require is to see honesty, effort, and moments of tenderness even in the middle of stress. If you cannot express romantic devotion, exhibit emotional presence. If you cannot laugh together, agree to speak carefully. Your pain does not have to be hidden, but it should not become their burden. 

Cultivating Hope, Not Faking It 

It is also vital to distinguish between faking and cultivating hope. Instead of forcing smiles or faked tenderness, try co-creating small, genuine moments of emotional safety. A shared cup of tea, a tranquil car journey, a kind word—these are not acts. They are small pieces of connection that your child can silently grasp onto. By choosing dignity over coldness and kindness over passive bitterness, you demonstrate that even when love fades or falters, it deserves to be treated with respect. 

Spiritual Insight 

Islam does not ask us to fake what is no longer felt. It requires us to safeguard what is sacred by showing respect, mercy, and emotional accountability. The ache you carry is not sinful. However, how you respond to it has an impact on your child’s spiritual and emotional development. Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Baqarah (2), Verse 286: 

‘Allah (Almighty) does not place any burden on any human being except that which is within his capacity…’ 

Allah Almighty does not disregard your heartbreak. However, you are not able to soften what your child witnesses. It is recorded in Sunan Ibn Majah, Hadith 3689, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘Allah is Gentle and loves gentleness in all things. ‘

Allow your child to see that gentleness, even if romantic love is absent. Show them that while relationships might change, dignity, patience, and compassion must never be lost. That is still love, and probably the most enduring sort.