How to Teach that Non-Verbal Communication Matters Too 

Parenting Perspective 

Children often assume that only spoken words truly matter. However, gestures, facial expressions, and tone of voice can communicate just as much—and sometimes even more. Teaching your children that non-verbal communication is important helps them understand how their actions affect their relationships, both at home and in society. 

Point Out What Non-Verbal Signals Convey 

Help your child see the connection between their gestures and the message they send. For instance, you could say, “When you fold your arms and look away, it feels like you are not listening, even if you do not say anything.” This approach raises their awareness without sounding accusatory. 

Model Respectful Non-Verbal Behaviour 

Children learn by observation. By maintaining eye contact, keeping your voice steady, and using open body language during disagreements, you demonstrate how to disagree respectfully. Your actions will speak louder than any lecture. 

Give Constructive Alternatives 

Offer your child better ways to express themselves. For example, “If you are upset, you can tell me calmly instead of sighing or rolling your eyes.” Over time, they will learn that respectful communication involves both their words and their posture. 

By consistently linking non-verbal signals to their effect on others, you teach your child that good manners are not only about what they say but also about how they carry themselves. 

Spiritual Insight 

Islamic teachings emphasise that a person’s character is reflected in all their actions, including non-verbal cues. Humility and respect should guide every aspect of a believer’s behaviour. 

Guidance from the noble Quran 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Hujuraat (49), Verse 11: 

‘Those of you who are believers, do not let a nation ridicule another nation, as perhaps it may be that they are better than them…’ 

This verse reminds us that mockery and disrespect are not limited to speech. They can also be shown through actions and expressions, and we are commanded to avoid them. 

Teachings of the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ 

It is recorded in Sahih Muslim, Hadith 41, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘A Muslim is the one from whose tongue and hand the other Muslims are safe.’ 

This Hadith teaches us that safety and respect extend beyond words to all forms of behaviour, including our actions and gestures. 

By teaching that non-verbal communication carries significant meaning, you are preparing your child to embody humility and respect in every interaction. They learn that their faith is reflected not just in their speech but also in their expressions, gestures, and presence, which helps to shape them into thoughtful and considerate individuals.