How to Make Reading Meaningful, Even If It Feels Unnatural 

Parenting Perspective 

It is understandable to feel disconnected when your child’s preferred way of bonding does not come naturally to you. However, the goal of reading together is not only about the book, but about the shared attention, presence, and emotional connection. Your daughter is likely enjoying the closeness and your interest more than the story itself. 

Reframe the Activity 

You can begin by reframing the activity in your mind. Instead of focusing on whether you enjoy the story, focus on what the experience means for her. When you sit with her, you are saying, “I value what matters to you.” That message builds security and trust. Even if storytelling is not your strength, your consistency in showing up for her is what she will remember. 

You can also adapt the experience to make it more engaging for yourself. You might ask her to explain why she likes the story, or you could invite her to act out a part while you read. If you feel less expressive with voices or characters, you can contribute in other ways, such as asking reflective questions or linking the story to real-life lessons. This allows you to connect with her interests while bringing in your own natural style. 

Presence Over Performance 

Over time, you may find that the reading sessions become less about performance and more about togetherness. Even a short, focused story session can be deeply meaningful if you approach it with intention. Remember, you are not required to love the activity itself, but you are encouraged to love the opportunity it provides to strengthen your bond. 

Spiritual Insight 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Luqman (31), verse 13: 

‘And when (Prophet) Luqman (AS) said to his son, whilst he was offering him enlightened direction: “O my son, do not ascribe to anything (which amounts to  icon worshipping/paganism), instead of (worshipping) Allah (Almighty);indeed, this kind of icon worshipping/paganism is the worst form of darkness (of ignorance and immorality)”.’ 

This Verse reminds us of the importance of seizing everyday opportunities to nurture and guide children, even in ordinary conversations. Luqman, known for his wisdom, used moments of closeness to plant seeds of faith and values. In the same way, shared reading can become a gentle space for you to connect, listen, and guide without pressure. 

The Prophetic Model: Make Things Easy 

It is recorded in Sahih al-Bukhari that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘Make things easy and do not make things difficult, give glad tidings and do not drive people away.’ ‘

[Sahih al-Bukhari,78:152] 

This hadith applies to parenting as well. When you approach reading with ease and warmth, you make it a welcoming experience rather than a forced one. Your daughter will not only enjoy the stories but also feel your acceptance and encouragement. 

By choosing presence over perfection, you show your daughter that love is not about shared talents but about shared attention. In this way, reading becomes less about the words on the page and more about writing trust into her heart.