How to Leave an Imprint That Feels Alive 

Parenting Perspective 

Many parents carry this quiet ache, the fear of being remembered only as the one who packed lunches, set rules, and stayed busy in the background. What you are longing for is not visibility for its own sake, but a meaningful connection. And that longing itself shows the depth of love you already give. 

Bring Yourself into the Foreground 

To leave an imprint that feels alive, start by making small choices that bring you into the foreground of your child’s emotional world. It might be a chat with your child before bedtime where you reflect together, a shared activity that becomes your special thing, or simply showing up with your full attention when they are telling a story even if it is about something trivial. 

It is not about creating grand memories or constantly entertaining your child. It is about moments of shared presence where they feel seen, and they see you in return. Your tone, your patience, and your curiosity related to their life are what matter most to them. Children may forget the exact words you said, but they will carry the feeling of how it felt to be with you. 

Bring More of Your Humanity into the Relationship 

To move from background to heart print, bring more of your own humanity into the relationship. Share your thoughts, express wonder, laugh with them, and let them see how you feel. Not everything has to be filtered through duty; some things require pleasure. 

Spiritual Insight 

Islam does not teach to only provide instructions to the child while parenting. It is about companionship. The most beloved relationships in our tradition between the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ and his companions, between him and the children in his life were always two sided. 

A Reminder That Love is Sacred 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Maryam (19), verses 96–97: 

‘Indeed, those people who have believed, and have undertaken virtuous actions; the One (Allah Almighty) Who is Most Beneficent shall designate for them, His absolute affection. So indeed, We (Allah Almighty) have made (this Quran) easy for you (O Prophet Muhammad ﷺ), revealed in your language; so that you may convey with (the Quran) celebratory news for those who have attained piety; and caution with (the Quran) the hostile nations.’ 

This Verse reminds us that love, connection, and the human bond formed through mercy and righteousness are honoured and facilitated by Allah Himself. Being remembered with love is not superficial; it is sacred. 

The Prophetic Model: Excellence is Being Best to Your Family 

It is recorded in Mishkat al-Masabih that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘The best among you are those who are best to their families. 
‘[Mishkat al-Masabih, 13:170] 

To be truly present, expressive, and emotionally available is part of this excellence. Not only will it place you in the forefront of their memories, but it will shape how they give love and presence in their own lives.