How to Help Siblings Lean on Each Other After a Move 

Parenting Perspective 

Shift Their Energy Towards Teamwork 

A house move is a major change for children. Even if the new home is positive, the loss of the familiar can leave them unsettled, which often shows up as clinginess and sibling conflict. When children feel insecure, they may compete for your attention rather than finding comfort in each other. The key is to provide reassurance while gently shifting their energy towards teamwork and shared identity. 

Acknowledge Their Feelings and Create New Rituals 

You can begin by acknowledging their feelings openly. Let them know it is normal to miss the old house, to feel uncertain, or to want more of your attention. By naming these emotions, you show them that you understand rather than dismiss their struggles. At the same time, create small, predictable family rituals in the new home. For example, a nightly story on the same couch or a shared du’a before bed can give them a sense of security. 

Encourage Cooperation 

To reduce rivalry, invite them to take part in joint tasks that highlight cooperation. Even simple things such as unpacking a box together or deciding where to place family photos can help them feel like a team. When conflict arises, rather than focusing only on stopping the fight, remind them that in this new chapter, they are each other’s closest allies. Praise moments when they show kindness or support to one another, so they learn that positive connection earns your attention too. 

Replace Rivalry With Shared Belonging 

Over time, your children will adjust to the new environment. The combination of steady routines, space to express feelings, and opportunities to work together will help them replace rivalry with a sense of shared belonging. 

Spiritual Insight 

Make Peace Between Your Brothers 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Hujuraat (49), Verse 10: 

‘Indeed, the believers are brothers (to each other); so, make peace with your brothers; and seek piety from Allah (Almighty) so that you may receive His Mercy.’  

This Verse reminds us that unity and reconciliation are central to faith. For children, moving into a new home is not only about the physical space but also about how relationships are nurtured within it. Teaching siblings to see each other as companions rather than competitors echoes the Quranic call to maintain harmony. 

Be Servants of Allah as Brothers 

It is recorded in Sunan Ibn Majah, Book 34, Hadith 23, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘Do not envy one another, do not hate one another, and do not turn away from one another, but be servants of Allah as brothers.’  

This hadith highlights the importance of rooting out jealousy and rivalry. When parents guide children to replace competition with care, they are instilling an Islamic ethic of brotherhood and compassion. 

By reminding your children that their sibling bond is a trust from Allah, you give spiritual meaning to their everyday interactions. Stability after a move is not found only in routines but in the mercy of a family that learns to lean on each other with love. This approach can reassure their hearts and strengthen the ties that will carry them through future changes together.