How to Create More Calm at Home When Life is Busy 

Parenting Perspective 

Being busy is not just confined to the tasks which are aligned to be performed, but it is about the pace of your nervous system. When your mind is constantly anticipating the next task, and your body is moving on autopilot from school run to dinner to deadlines, your home begins to carry that same energy. Your child may not understand what is happening, but they will feel it, in your tone, in the rush, in the sense that presence is always just out of reach. 

Staying calm is relevant to beingstill and connected even when working.

Small Changes That Slow the Emotional Tempo of Your Home 

Build ‘anchoring rituals’

Choose one or two parts of the day where the pace is always slow, even if it is just 10 minutes. A no-phone breakfast. A cuddle before bed. A story after school. Children do not need endless hours of calm, they need predictable pauses where they can feel safe and seen. 

Narrate your rush gently

Instead of snapping ‘Hurry up!’, say: ‘We are short on time, but I still want to be kind. Let us move quickly together. This models urgency without transferring anxiety. 

Practise ‘slow eyes’ and ‘soft hands’

Even while rushing, lower your voice, soften your eyes, and move gently. Children pick up more from your energy than your speed. You can be busy without being frantic. 

Lower your standards when needed, intentionally

Sometimes calm means choosing toast over a full breakfast, skipping folded laundry, or letting go of a perfectly clean floor. Name it to yourself: ‘I am choosing peace over perfection right now.’ 

End the day with emotional reset, not just physical rest

After the rush is over, even if your child is asleep, take two minutes to breathe, reflect, or make Dua. This gives your own heart permission to slow down too. 

A calm home is not built on a calm schedule. It is built on a calm presence, even if only in moments. 

Spiritual Insight 

In Islam, Sakinah , a deep, divine tranquillity , is one of the greatest spiritual gifts. It is not the absence of noise, but the presence of Allah’s steadiness within your heart, no matter the pace outside. 

A Reminder That Calm Comes from Trust 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Fatah (48), verse 4: 

“He (Allah Almighty) is the One Who has transmitted tranquillity into the hearts of the believers; so that they may advance in the faith (strengthening) their (current) faith; and the forces (of all energy and intelligence) within the layers of trans-universal existence and the Earth serve Allah (Almighty)….” 

This Verse reminds us that calm does not come from time management, it comes from being rooted in trust, even when life moves fast. 

The Prophetic Model: Calmness is from Allah 

It is recorded in Musnad Ahmad that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

“Calmness and patient deliberation is from Allah, while haste is from Satan.”  

[Musnad Ahmad, 21373] 

Even in busy lives, we are encouraged to cultivate the act of performing slow where we can, in tone, in intention, in thought, because these are the moments that protect the soul from weariness and protect children from chaos. 

So when the world is rushing and your feet are moving, let your heart walk slower. Let your eyes soften. Let your home carry one space, however small, where peace lives, even if everything else is running late.