How to Access Your Light-Hearted Self Again 

Parenting Perspective 

You are deeply aware of the warmth your child needs, and that recognition alone shows how much you care. When it feels that light-heartedness has lost its significance of feeling, it often means life’s pressures have dimmed the joy rather than extinguished it. Rekindling that part of yourself may feel daunting, but you can begin with gentle intention. 

Notice Small Moments of Ease 

Start by noticing small moments when a smile naturally surfaces, even if only briefly. Perhaps your child’s laughter, the sun on your face, or the comforting rhythm of household routines. Make space for one light moment each day, even if it is simply sharing a humorous thought or recalling a fond memory together. These small sparks of ease do not require escaping responsibilities; they quietly reawaken your presence. 

Invite Simple, Low-Stakes Connection 

Invite your child into simple, low-stakes connection. A shared giggle over a tongue-twister or a playful question at dinner can remind both of you that laughter and lightness belong in your story, not just discipline or planning. 

Rediscover What Nourishes You 

Gradually, you may rediscover what nourishes that lighter version of yourself, whether it is listening to comforting sounds, moving your body in a way that feels free, or watching something that makes you smile. Begin modestly, without pressure. Your child sees not just the light you radiate but the process of your reawakening; this models resilience, not perfection. 

Spiritual Insight 

Islam honours the heart that is alive, balanced, and in gentle connection with joy. It does not ask parents to bear the universe on their shoulders; it invites them to inhabit their hearts with ease and gratitude, for the sake of themselves and their children. 

A Reminder That Ease is Part of the Test 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Mulk (67), verse 2: 

‘It is He (Allah Almighty) Who has created mortal expiration and life so that you may be tested; as to which one a few (conducts himself) in better deeds; and He is the Most Cherished and the Most Forgiving.’ 

This Verse reminds us that life is a balance of test and ease, that the same Creator who gave responsibilities also granted relief. Ease is not optional; it is part of the test, too. Allowing joy to return does not diminish your dedication, it enriches it. 

The Prophetic Model: The Gift of Peace 

It is recorded in Sahih Muslim that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘None of you truly believes until he loves for his brother what he loves for himself. ‘

[Sahih Muslim, 1:77] 

This includes the gift of peace, of lightness, of ease. When you invite that light-heartedness back into your own heart, permission you earnestly extend in your soul, you are also giving it to your child. In doing so, you embody faith in a life where responsibility and joy coexist. 

Begin lightly, and watch the light return, not just for you, but for your child who thrives in your presence.