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How does playing with siblings enhance thinking skills?

Parenting Perspective

Playing with siblings is one of the most natural and powerful environments for developing both thinking and social-emotional skills. Within the safe and familiar space of the sibling bond, children engage in a wide range of experiences that challenge their reasoning, adaptability, and communication. Games that involve taking turns, negotiating rules, or building something together strengthen executive function skills like attention, memory, and planning. Because siblings often play without adult supervision, they are required to problem-solve in real time. This means they learn how to create structure, adapt roles, and resolve conflict with minimal external input.
Disagreements, though often stressful for parents, are valuable opportunities in disguise. When siblings argue over toys or take on different roles in imaginative games, they practise compromise, learn to assert themselves respectfully, and develop empathy. These interactions enhance perspective-taking, a skill essential to critical thinking and emotional intelligence. In sibling play, children also mimic adult behaviours, engage in storytelling, and invent new scenarios. This kind of creative play supports language development, narrative understanding, and abstract thinking.
The spontaneous nature of sibling interaction is particularly important. Unlike adult-directed activities, sibling play is dynamic and unscripted, which nurtures mental flexibility and cooperative problem-solving. Children learn to test ideas, adjust quickly, and manage emotional responses. These are foundational cognitive skills that support learning in school and resilience in life. When nurtured with patience and boundaries, sibling play builds not only strong relationships but also sharp, adaptable minds.

Spiritual Insight

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Hujuraat (49), Verse 10: ‘Indeed, the believers are brothers (to each other); so, make peace with your brothers…’ This verse underscores the sanctity of brotherhood and peaceful coexistence. While its primary context addresses community ties, it also echoes deeply in the family setting. Sibling relationships are often the first training ground for understanding unity, conflict resolution, and mercy. Through everyday moments of play, rivalry, and reconciliation, children are building the emotional and moral framework for lifelong relationships.

It is recorded in Sahih Bukhari, Hadith 6114, that holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ stated: ‘The strong is not the one who overcomes others by force but the one who controls himself in anger.’ Within sibling play, children frequently face frustration or jealousy, and each interaction becomes a lesson in emotional self-control. Guiding them with wisdom and gentle reminders helps them develop not only patience but a deeper sense of integrity and restraint.

 By fostering a home culture where sibling play is respected and guided rather than tightly controlled, parents are building a space where minds grow, hearts soften, and children become emotionally intelligent thinkers grounded in faith.


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