How do we respond when a child asks for “just 10 more minutes” without undermining boundaries? 

Parenting Perspective 

The plea for ‘just a few more minutes’ is a classic test of a parent’s resolve. How you handle this moment can either reinforce the boundary or teach your child that rules are negotiable. 

Acknowledge Without Agreeing 

Start by recognising their feelings without giving in to the request. A calm response like, ‘I know it is hard to stop when you are enjoying it, but our agreed time is up for today,’ shows empathy while holding the boundary firm. 

Offer a Transition Cue 

Rather than getting drawn into a debate, provide a clear transition. For example, ‘Why don’t you save your game now so you will be ready for your turn tomorrow?’ This gives them a positive action to take and keeps the structure of the day intact. 

Keep Boundaries Consistent 

If you sometimes give in to avoid a conflict, your child learns that protesting is an effective strategy. Consistency is the most important element in teaching them that the limit is real. If you do allow exceptions, ensure they are rare and clearly defined for special occasions. 

Handled with empathy, clarity, and firmness, your child learns that rules are dependable and not easily swayed by momentary desire. 

Spiritual Insight 

In Islam, discipline and compassion are seen as partners. Holding firm to an agreed-upon limit is a form of amanah (trust) between a parent and child, as it teaches the value of honouring one’s commitments. 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Isra (17), Verse 34: 

‘And fulfill [every] commitment. Indeed, the commitment is ever [that about which one will be] questioned…’ 

This verse reminds us that keeping our agreements, both big and small, is a matter of integrity for which we are accountable to Allah. 

It is recorded in Sahih Bukhari, Hadith 33, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘The signs of a hypocrite are three: whenever he speaks, he tells a lie; whenever he promises, he breaks his promise; whenever he is entrusted, he proves dishonest.’ 

While this hadith addresses serious moral traits, it powerfully underlines the importance of being true to our word, even in small, everyday family promises. 

By keeping screen-time commitments firm yet compassionate, you teach your child that limits are a form of care, not control, and that trust grows when words are honoured.