How do we handle it when our child starts copying slang, style, or behaviour from influencers that conflict with family values? 

Parenting Perspective 

Approaching the Conversation with Care 

It is important to address the behaviour in a private and respectful way. Shaming or mocking your child will likely make them defensive and shut down the conversation. Instead, start with gentle, curious questions to understand the appeal, such as, ‘I have noticed you have been saying this new phrase. Which influencer is it from? What do you like about them?’ 

Encouraging Discerning Imitation 

Help your child develop the crucial skill of separating a person’s talent from their overall behaviour. Explain that it is possible to admire an influencer’s creativity or skill in one area without needing to copy everything they say or do. This teaches them to think critically and avoid the trap of blind, all-or-nothing imitation. 

Connecting to Your Family’s ‘Why’ 

Clearly and calmly explain which specific behaviours, words, or styles clash with your family’s principles and, most importantly, why. Frame the discussion around your core values, such as modesty, respect for elders, or truthful speech. This is far more effective than simply labelling something as ‘wrong’ without context. 

Guiding Towards Better Role Models 

Actively introduce your child to a wider range of role models, both online and in real life, who are inspiring, relatable, and aligned with Islamic values. When you help them find positive figures to look up to, you provide a healthy and appealing alternative, making it easier for them to outgrow negative influences on their own. 

Spiritual Insight 

Islam guides us to be conscious of our environment and the influences we allow into our lives, as they shape our character. 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Furqan (25), Verses 72–73: 

‘And [they are] those who do not bear witness to what is false, and when they pass near ill speech, they pass by with dignity. And those who, when reminded of the verses of their Lord, do not fall upon them deaf and blind…‘ 

This passage reminds children of the noble character of a believer. “Ill speech” can include harmful slang or un-Islamic attitudes popularised by influencers. A believer chooses to “pass by with dignity” rather than adopting such behaviour. It also reminds us to be receptive to guidance when our actions are corrected. 

The Prophet Muhammad ﷺ taught a principle of focusing on what is meaningful and beneficial. 

It is recorded in Sunan Ibn Majah, 3976, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘Part of a person’s being a good Muslim is leaving alone that which does not concern him.‘ 

This wisdom serves as a powerful filter for navigating modern trends. It teaches children to ask themselves: ‘Is this slang, style, or behaviour truly beneficial for my character and my faith?’ This encourages them to consciously abandon trends that offer no real value and do not align with their identity as a Muslim.