How do we explain that some games, videos, or memes may seem harmless but carry subtle harmful messages? 

Parenting Perspective 

Not all harmful content is obvious. Teaching children to look deeper and recognise the subtle messages in their entertainment is a crucial skill for developing a strong and independent moral compass. 

Start with the Idea of Hidden Influence 

Use a simple analogy they can understand. You could explain that just like some foods look tasty but contain unhealthy ingredients, some videos or games can seem fun but contain ideas that are not good for our hearts and minds. 

Break Down the Subtle Cues 

Gently point out specific examples. This could be jokes that are unkind about other people, or storylines that make lying and disrespect seem normal or funny. Explain how seeing these things repeatedly can make them seem acceptable over time. 

Encourage Them to Ask: ‘What is this teaching me?’ 

Give them a simple question to use as a tool for thinking critically. Encourage them to ask themselves, ‘What is this show or game actually teaching me?’ This helps them to become aware of the values being promoted. 

Replace, Don’t Just Restrict 

Instead of only forbidding certain types of media, make sure you actively find and offer alternatives that are both fun and reflect good character. This shows that the goal is not to remove enjoyment, but to find a better kind of enjoyment. 

This approach helps children become discerning viewers who can protect their own hearts. 

Spiritual Insight 

Islam teaches us to be selective in what we allow into our hearts and minds, guarding ourselves from influences that may seem harmless but can subtly corrupt our character. 

Discernment in Entertainment 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Furqan (25), Verse 72: 

‘And [they are] those who do not witness falsehood, and when they pass near ill speech, they pass by with dignity…’ 

This reminds us that a sign of a true believer is the ability to turn away from harmful or degrading material with dignity, even when it is presented in a light-hearted or playful way. 

Filtering What We Allow Into Our Hearts 

It is recorded in Sunan Ibn Majah, Hadith 3976, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘Part of the perfection of a person’s Islam is his leaving that which does not concern him.’ 

This teaches us that avoiding media with subtle, harmful messages is part of protecting our hearts and minds from gradual corruption, and a sign of a person who is focused on what truly matters.