How do we decide together on the right tech-free times, like meals or prayer? 

Parenting Perspective 

Creating ‘sacred’ screen-free times is most successful when it is a team effort. By deciding on these moments together, you can transform a potential source of conflict into a shared family value. 

Start with Shared Priorities 

Start the conversation by inviting their input. You could ask your child which moments in the day they feel are most important to have without interruptions. Listening to their ideas first creates a tone of collaboration and respect from the very beginning. 

Explain the Reasoning Behind Each Choice 

For each tech-free time, explain the positive reason behind it. For meals, you can say it is to enjoy our food and conversation. For prayer times, explain that it is a special time to focus only on Allah. This helps them to connect each rule to a positive value. 

Trial and Adjust Together 

Agree to try the new schedule for a set period, like one week. Afterwards, you can sit down as a family to discuss what worked well and what felt challenging. This shows that the goal is a flexible balance, not rigid control, and that their feelings matter. 

This collaborative process teaches children that rules can be fair, respectful, and designed to benefit everyone. 

Spiritual Insight 

Islam deeply values moments of full presence, whether they are moments of devotion to Allah or moments of connection with family. Both are considered essential for a balanced life. 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Muminun (23), Verses 1–2: 

‘Certainly will the believers have succeeded: They who are during their prayer humbly submissive…’ 

This teaches us that prayer requires our full focus and humility (khushu). Designating prayer times as device-free helps the whole family to maintain this state of reverence. 

It is recorded in Sahih Bukhari, Hadith 893, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘Each of you is a shepherd and each of you is responsible for his flock.’ 

This reminds us that a parent’s role is to serve the best interests of their child, which includes setting boundaries with wisdom for their benefit, not just for the sake of control. When your family decides on these sacred times together, you are collectively agreeing to prioritise what is most important.