How do we address exceptions for special events without undermining the rules? 

Parenting Perspective 

A healthy set of rules should be firm but not brittle. Allowing for special occasions does not have to weaken your boundaries; in fact, when handled well, it can teach children about flexibility and trust. 

Acknowledging Life’s Special Moments 

Your screen time rules should be realistic enough to accommodate special occasions like a family movie night or a long holiday journey. Instead of treating these as ‘breaking the rules,’ frame them as planned, rare exceptions. This teaches that flexibility is part of a healthy approach. 

Setting Clear Parameters for Exceptions 

When you make an exception, explain the reason for it and agree on the specific time frame beforehand. For example, ‘Tonight is our special movie night, so our normal screen rules are paused just for the film.’ This clarity prevents the exception from turning into an all-night free-for-all. 

Returning to Routine Promptly 

The key to ensuring that exceptions do not weaken your rules is to return to your normal routine immediately the next day. When children see that special events are contained and temporary, they are much more likely to respect the daily boundaries without protest. 

Handled this way, exceptions do not weaken the rules; they strengthen trust and model a balanced, adaptable approach to life. 

Spiritual Insight 

Islam is a religion of balance, recognising the need for both structure and flexibility in our lives. While discipline is essential, our faith also allows ample room for joy and celebration, as long as it is within wholesome limits. 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Baqarah (2), Verse 185: 

‘Allah intends for you ease and does not intend for you hardship…’ 

This reminds us that the rules we live by, both divine and domestic, should be a source of benefit and ease, not an unnecessary burden. 

It is recorded in Riyadh Al Saliheen, Hadith 636, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘Make things easy and do not make them difficult, and give good tidings and do not cause aversion.’ 

By allowing well-defined exceptions for special events, you teach children that rules are not rigid punishments, but thoughtful boundaries designed to protect well-being while still embracing moments of joy.