How do parents unintentionally teach emotional suppression, and how can we undo that?

Many parents unintentionally teach emotional suppression by trying to manage or minimise their child’s feelings. Children may eventually cease expressing themselves because they feel unsafe rather than because they feel better. Making emotions feel normal and acceptable is the first step towards reversing this. Express your emotions honestly and succinctly by saying things like, ‘I am feeling a bit tired today,’ or ‘That was frustrating for me too.’ When your youngster says anything, try not to correct or minimise it. Rather, think about it gently: ‘You seem anxious about your test.’ ‘Would discussing it or taking a break together be beneficial?’ These instances demonstrate that feelings are invitations to connect rather than indicators of weakness.