How do I work with the teacher if anger issues happen at school? 

Parenting Perspective 

When a teacher shares concerns about a child’s anger, it can be surprising or troubling. Schools are not only places for learning academic subjects but also environments that nurture emotional development. 

Approach the conversation with openness 

• Listen attentively to the teacher’s observations 

• Request clear examples of incidents, triggers, and school responses 

• Share insights into your child’s temperament or known sensitivities 

The aim is to build a united approach that maintains consistency between school and home. Strategies may include: 

• Calming routines 

• Visual cues 

• Safe outlets for frustration such as movement breaks or emotion journals 

Reassure your child that both home and school are working together to help them, not punish them. This shared method fosters trust and safety, rather than shame. 

Spiritual Insight 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran in Surah Al Hujuraat (49), Verse 10: 

‘Indeed, the believers are brothers (to each other); so, make peace with your brothers; and seek piety from Allah (Almighty) so that you may receive His Mercy. ‘

This Verse underlines the value of restoring harmony and working collectively to strengthen bonds. A parent’s respectful, cooperative engagement with teachers mirrors this divine guidance. 

It is recorded in Jami Tirmidhi, Hadith 2612, that the Holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ stated: 

‘Indeed among the believers with the most complete faith is the one who is the best in conduct, and the most kind to his family. ‘

Kindness and clarity at home provide children with a stable emotional base, allowing them to grow responsibly. A meaningful phrase you may share with your child is: 

• ‘Ya Allah Almighty, please guide me to act wisely and patiently, regardless of my circumstances. ‘

These words remind a child to remain centred, even when facing emotional difficulty in external settings.