How do I work with teachers to help my child share feelings at school? 

Parenting Perspective 

Partner with Your Child’s Teacher 

For many neurodiverse children, sharing feelings at school can feel impossible. They may mask their emotions to fit in, stay silent out of fear, or struggle to find the right words in busy classrooms. Helping teachers understand how your child shows their feelings, and what helps them share safely, can make a significant difference. Start by meeting with your child’s teacher calmly and honestly. Use simple words: ‘My child sometimes struggles to say when they feel upset or overwhelmed. Here are some signs to look out for.’ 

Create Small, Practical Supports 

Work together to create small supports that fit your child’s needs. This might include a feelings chart on their desk, a special signal to use if they need a break, or a trusted adult they can speak to when they feel stuck. Remind your child that telling a teacher how they feel is not complaining; it is part of looking after their own heart. You can practise phrases they could use, such as, ‘I feel worried,’ ‘This is too loud for me,’ or, ‘Can I have some quiet time?’ Praise your child for every small moment they speak up, even if it is just a nod or a whispered word. Check in with teachers regularly to see what is working and what needs adjusting. Over time, this team effort shows your child that they do not have to hide their big feelings; there are people at school who are ready to listen and help. 

Spiritual Insight 

Islam teaches us that seeking help and support is a sign of strength and trust in Allah Almighty. He knows our hidden struggles, even when others miss them. Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Mujadilah (58), Verse 7: 

‘…There can never be a secret consultation between three people, except that He (Allah Almighty) shall be the fourth in them…‘

Share this Ayah with your child to remind them that Allah Almighty is always with them, even when they feel alone in the classroom. 

It is recorded in Jami Tirmidhi, Hadith 3372, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘Dua is worship.‘

Teach your child to make a gentle prayer before school: ‘Ya Allah, help me share my feelings and find kind people to help me.’ This small act connects their trust to their faith. By working closely with teachers and keeping your child’s voice at the centre, you show them that they never have to carry big feelings alone; their school and their faith are safe places for honesty, calmness, and mercy.