Parenting Perspective 

Children thrive on encouragement, but long speeches or exaggerated praise can make them self-conscious or even dependent on approval. The most effective way to reinforce positive behaviour is to use short, sincere words in the very moment they happen. This shows the child that their effort is noticed and valued, without turning the moment into a performance. 

Keep It Short and Immediate 

Say a quick line right when the action happens: 

• “Nice job putting your shoes away.” 

• “I like how you shared that toy.” 

• “Good focus on your homework just now.” 

Immediate acknowledgement helps the child connect the behaviour to the praise. 

Focus on Effort and Specifics 

Instead of “You are so smart,” try “You worked hard on that puzzle.” This reinforces effort and growth rather than fixed traits. 

Use Warm Tone and Expression 

Your voice and smile carry as much weight as the words. A gentle pat on the shoulder or a nod can double the impact of brief praise. 

Avoid Overdoing It 

One sincere line is enough. Over-praising can dilute the value or make siblings feel competitive. 

Brief, well-placed praise helps children repeat good habits naturally, knowing that their small wins matter to you. 

Spiritual Insight 

Islam encourages recognising and appreciating good deeds, however small. Praise given with sincerity can nurture humility and reinforce the value of consistent effort. 

Guidance from the Noble Quran 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Zalzalah (99), Verses 7: 

‘Thus, everyone’s actions equivalent to the measurement of an atom that is good shall be observed by them (on the Day of Judgment).’ 

This reminds us that even the smallest good actions are noticed and rewarded by Allah Almighty. 

Teaching from the Hadith 

It is recorded in Riyadh Al Saliheen, Hadith 121, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘Do not belittle any good deed, even meeting your brother with a cheerful face.’ 

This teaches us that recognising and valuing small acts of goodness encourages a spirit of kindness and consistency. 

By using brief praise in the moment, you mirror this prophetic guidance: noticing small wins, reinforcing them, and showing children that no effort is too small to matter. They learn that consistent good behaviour is valued by both parents and Allah Almighty.