Parenting Perspective 

Children often resist chores when parents hover, correct constantly, or redo their work. While you want to set standards, micromanaging can make them feel incapable or resentful. The balance lies in teaching expectations clearly, then stepping back to let them practise. 

Show, Do not Lecture 

Instead of long explanations, demonstrate the task once: “Here is how we fold a towel so it fits neatly.” Then let them try, without interrupting mid-task. 

Break Standards Into Clear Steps 

Simplify chores into two or three main points. For example, “Shoes go on the rack, not the floor. Laces tucked in.” A short checklist is easier to remember than vague expectations like “Tidy properly.” 

Praise Progress, Not Perfection 

Comment on what went well before adding a tip: “I like how you stacked the books. Next time, let us keep the big ones at the bottom.” This builds confidence instead of discouragement. 

Allow for “Good Enough” 

Accept that a child’s version may not look like yours. Quality grows with practice. Redoing their work silently or criticising too harshly teaches them it is not worth trying. 

Review Together 

At the end, review in a calm moment: “What part of this chore felt easy? What could we do better next time?” Involving them builds ownership of standards. 

By teaching standards with guidance, then giving space, you show your child that effort matters more than control, and that learning happens gradually. 

Spiritual Insight 

Islam values ihsan (excellence) in every action, but it also emphasises mercy and patience in teaching. Setting high standards is good, but forcing or humiliating is not in line with prophetic character. 

Guidance from the Noble Quran 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Mulk (67), Verses 2: 

‘It is He (Allah Almighty) Who has created mortal expiration and life so that you may be tested; as to which one a few (conducts himself) in better deeds…’ 

This reminds us that quality matters, but it is about striving for excellence, not perfection at once. 

Teaching from the Hadith 

It is recorded in Riyadh Al Saliheen, Hadith 639, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘Verily Allah has prescribed excellence (ihsan) in everything.’ 

This teaches us that all tasks, big or small, should be done with care, but always with kindness in teaching and guiding. 

By teaching children quality standards patiently, you help them link chores with ihsan, not fear. They learn that their best effort matters to both family life and to Allah Almighty, and that growth comes through practice, not perfection.