Parenting Perspective 

Feeling overwhelmed in social settings may present as withdrawal, refusal, or intense emotional reactions. For children, especially those sensitive to sensory input or emotions, a loud environment, unfamiliar faces, or unstated social norms can feel daunting. Rather than pushing them to participate, the goal is to offer structure, predictability, and calm reassurance. 

Prepare them in advance 

Let your child know what to expect: 

• Where you are going 

• Who will be there 

• What they might hear or see 

If your child is a visual learner, consider using a social story or picture sequence to introduce the setting. Offer strategies for emotional safety: 

• If you feel overwhelmed, you can come to me, and we can take a break. 

• Bring a calming item such as a soft object or faith-based fidget tool. 

• Create a designated ‘quiet corner’ if possible. 

Avoid shaming language. Instead, frame challenges as learning opportunities: 

• It is acceptable to take a step back when situations become overwhelming. 

Celebrate self-regulation: 

• You recognised when it became overwhelming and sought assistance, which is a sign of strength. 

Over time, these moments of preparation and reflection build emotional resilience and social confidence. 

Spiritual Insight 

Allah Almighty states in Surah Al Hujuraat (49), Verse 11: 

Those of you who are believers, do not let a nation ridicule another nation, as perhaps it may be that they are better than them…. 

This verse teaches us to respect each person’s temperament and timing. Some children may not engage in typical social ways and that is permissible. Our task is to honour their dignity while nurturing their growth. 

Holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ always accommodated individual needs within the community. It is reported in Sunan Abu Dawood, Hadith 4943: 

Those who do not show mercy to our young ones and do not realise the right of our elders are not from us. 

This Hadith underscores that mercy is foundational to Islamic social conduct. Support your child by reinforcing that stepping away to self-regulate is a wise and empowered choice. 

‘Teach them a calming affirmation: ‘

Ya Allah Almighty, grant me peace when I feel overwhelmed. 

When this spiritual grounding is paired with structured support, children begin to see emotional balance as a strength they can carry into every gathering.