How do I stop my child from running off in anger? 

Parenting Perspective 

When a child runs off in anger, it is usually a way to escape overwhelming emotions rather than a direct act of defiance. Often, the child is attempting to regulate strong feelings through physical release or to avoid further engagement. This response can be especially concerning in public or potentially unsafe settings. The aim is not merely to stop the behaviour, but to equip the child with safer and more emotionally grounded alternatives. 

Identify the trigger 

Begin by understanding the context: 

• Was a boundary recently set? 

• Did plans change suddenly? 

• Was there conflict with a sibling? 

Anticipate the behaviour using forward-looking language: 

• If you are feeling upset, consider walking to your calm space rather than running. 

Establish a safe plan for handling moments of distress: 

• Assign a designated space for calming down. 

• Agree on a signal word for taking a break. 

• Practise responses through role-play: Demonstrate how you can leave with confidence when you feel complete within. 

Stay calm and steady if your child runs off: 

• I understand you are feeling upset. 

• I will be available when you are prepared. 

Avoid chasing or yelling. By consistently offering supportive, safe alternatives, you encourage the development of emotional regulation and reduce impulsive behaviour. 

Spiritual Insight 

Allah Almighty states in Surah Al Shuraa (42), Verse 43: 

And for the person who is patient and forgiving, indeed, (these acts are derived from) higher moral determination. 

This verse elevates restraint and forgiveness as markers of true strength. Children who tend to run off need to witness this strength demonstrated through patience, not enforced through control. 

Holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said, as recorded in Sahih Bukhari, Hadith 6114: 

‘The strong man is not the one who wrestles well, but the strong man is the one who controls himself when he is in a fit of rage. ‘

Teach your child to internalise this Hadith: 

• Real strength is staying still when angry. 

Support this with a short, sincere prayer: 

‘O Allah, help me stand still when I want to run. ‘

When spiritual principles are integrated with practical safety routines, your child begins to transform impulsive responses into thoughtful decisions anchored in both emotional growth and Islamic teachings.