Parenting Perspective 

As a parent, it is easy to feel overwhelmed by the demands of balancing work, household responsibilities, and personal commitments. This constant juggle can sometimes result in disruptions to your plans with your child, leaving you feeling guilty or frustrated. You may wonder if your child feels neglected or if you are no longer the dependable figure you aim to be. However, reliability does not mean flawless execution; it is about how you show up, even when things do not go as planned. 

Acknowledge the Disruption with Honesty and Empathy 

The first step in maintaining reliability is acknowledging the situation with honesty and empathy. Children are incredibly perceptive and can often sense when things are off. If you fail to address the disruption, it may leave them feeling confused or let down. Instead, approach the situation with vulnerability. 

‘I know I promised we would go to the park today, and I am really sorry that I cannot make it. Something unexpected came up with work, but I want you to know that you are still a priority, and we will make this up soon.’ 

This openness not only shows your child that you respect their feelings but it also models healthy emotional regulation. 

Consistency is More Important Than Perfection 

In times of disruption, reliability is shown not by perfect execution but by your consistency. Children thrive on consistency because it gives them a sense of security. If work or stress consistently interferes with your plans, focus on establishing small but consistent acts of care. 

• Even if you cannot dedicate a whole day, make time for short, meaningful moments. A quick chat, a warm hug, or a brief moment of undivided attention can go a long way. 

• When your plans change, be proactive in rescheduling or offering alternative solutions. If a day out is no longer possible, suggest another fun activity that you can do together, such as a movie night. 

Children remember not only the big moments but the small, consistent actions. When you show them that you are committed to making things right, they feel emotionally secure. 

Offer Reassurance and Create New Opportunities 

When disruptions occur, offering reassurance is essential. Reassure your child that your love and commitment to them remain unchanged, even if the plan has to shift. You can also create opportunities to make up for the lost time. 

‘I understand you are disappointed, and I feel that too. How about we plan something even better tomorrow? We will make it a special day together.’ 

Setting new plans gives your child something to look forward to, reinforcing that their needs will always be met, despite the occasional disruption. 

Lead by Example: Teach Flexibility and Adaptability 

One of the most valuable lessons you can impart to your child during these times is the importance of flexibility and adaptability. By demonstrating a calm and adaptable response, you teach your child to embrace challenges with resilience rather than frustration. 

‘I wish I could be there today, but work needs me. However, let us plan something special when I get home. And next time, I will make sure to block time off for you.’ 

This models emotional intelligence, teaching your child that adaptability is key to navigating life’s challenges while maintaining a sense of emotional security. 

Spiritual Insight 

Divine Reassurance in Times of Stress 

The noble Quran reminds us that Allah Almighty, in His infinite wisdom, does not place burdens on us greater than we are capable of carrying. While work and stress may feel overwhelming, Allah knows our limits and provides the strength we need. 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Baqarah (2), Verse 286: 

‘Allah (Almighty) does not place any burden on any human being except that which is within his capacity…’ 

Our reliability as parents reflects the trust we place in Allah’s plan, knowing that each challenge is an opportunity for growth. 

The Prophetic Example of Emotional Control 

The teachings of the Prophet Muhammad ﷺ tell us that true strength lies in emotional control and patience. When faced with disruptions, it is easy to react with frustration. However, reliability is built through our ability to manage our emotions and stay calm. 

It is recorded in Sahih Bukhari, Hadith 6114, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘The strong person is not the one who is strong in physical strength, but the one who controls himself when angry.’ 

By demonstrating resilience, flexibility, and compassion, we not only reaffirm our reliability but also strengthen our child’s emotional well-being, teaching them that true strength is in navigating life’s ups and downs with patience, grace, and unwavering love.