Parenting Perspective 

When your child speaks to you in a loud voice, it can be unexpected and unsettling, especially when you are aiming to provide support. When a child shouts, it often means they are feeling overwhelmed and do not yet have the tools to manage those emotions effectively. 

Responding immediately with confrontation may escalate the issue, whereas taking a moment to pause can help to ease the situation and show self-restraint. Once you have composed yourself, set a clear boundary: It is okay to feel upset, but it is not okay to raise your voice. 

Help your child reflect on what happened, exploring the reasons for their outburst and discussing ways to express their emotions more appropriately in the future. This method allows parents to set emotional boundaries without using punishment and teaches children that anger is an emotion to be understood, not a weapon to be used. 

Spiritual Insight 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Israa (17), Verse 23: 

‘And your Sustainer has decreed that you do not worship anyone except Him Alone; And (treat) parents favourably; whether one of them or both of them reach old age in your lifetime; then do not say to either of them ‘Uff’ (an expression of disrespectful frustration) and do not admonish them; and talk to them with kind words. ‘

The standard of respectful speech begins in childhood and deepens with age. As parents, our own dignity in response can shape the tone of our child’s future interactions. 

It is recorded in Sunan Abu Dawood, Hadith 4782, that the Holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ stated: 

‘When one of you becomes angry while standing, he should sit down. If the anger leaves him, well and good; otherwise, he should lie down. ‘

This Hadith offers a clear model for managing anger and suggests a physical method to cultivate inner calm. You may also introduce your child to gentle breathing exercises or silent Dhikr as a calming ritual to help restore peace and spiritual awareness.