How do I respond if my child feels ‘left out’ for not having certain gadgets? 

Parenting Perspective 

Listen to Their Feelings 

In today’s world, it is very common for children to feel upset when they see that their family does not have every new gadget their friends or cousins might own. It can leave them feeling left out or frustrated. Start by being a good listener. Do not brush off their feelings. Let your child share because they feel angry or disappointed. 

Gently Explain Your Family’s Principles 

Then, explain your family’s principles gently. Let them know that you make choices not just based on money but also to protect the well-being, focus and faith of everyone at home. Give practical examples. Talk about how too many devices having can eat into family time, disrupt sleep or distract from Salah and meaningful connection. 

Offer Healthy Alternatives 

Offer healthy alternatives. Suggest more family games, outdoor adventures or a special gadget that can be used together with your supervision for certain moments. Praise your child for handling their feelings well, even when it feels hard. 

Remind them that not getting every new thing does not mean they are missing out on what truly matters. These small, honest conversations build resilience over time. They help your child stand firm in your family’s choices, even when they see others doing things differently. 

Spiritual Insight 

Islam teaches us that true richness is not found in collecting things but in contentment and gratitude. 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah At-Takathur (102), Verses 1–2: 

‘Competition in [worldly] increase diverts you. Until you visit the graveyards. ‘

This Ayah reminds us how easy it is to chase what others have, only to find it brings no lasting peace. 

It is recorded in Jami Tirmidhi, Hadith 2373, that holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ stated: 

‘Richness is not having many possessions, but richness is being content with oneself. ‘

Share this beautiful reminder with your child so they see that real happiness does not come from owning the newest gadget. Make a simple Dua together: O Allah, fill our hearts with gratitude for what we have. Celebrate small blessings as a family, a peaceful home, good health, time together. Help your child focus on what they gain instead: stronger family bonds, better sleep, and a heart less distracted from remembering Allah Almighty. Keep conversations gentle and ongoing, as your child grows, they will see that feeling ‘left out’ for small things now often protects them from bigger regrets later. With your calm guidance, they will learn that true fulfilment is not about keeping up with every trend but choosing what brings Barakah, peace, and closeness to Allah Almighty, InshaAllah.