How do I repair our bond after a shouting match? 

Parenting Perspective 

An intense disagreement can create a considerable emotional gap between you and your child. Afterward, children may feel scared, guilty, or emotionally disconnected. Bridging this gap requires comprehension and a thoughtful approach to rebuilding relationships. 

Begin by recognising your mistake: I apologise for raising my voice with you. I sincerely apologise. This shows accountability and personal development. 

Keep a consistent routine of reconnecting: enjoy a glass of water together or engage in a peaceful conversation by asking, ‘how are you feeling at this moment?’ 

• Younger children benefit from hearing: I love you always. 

• Older children may appreciate being asked: What were you thinking at that moment? 

This fosters emotional security and demonstrates that acknowledging mistakes can enhance trust rather than damage it. 

Spiritual Insight 

Allah Almighty reminds us in the Quran, Surah Al Shuraa (42), Verse 40: 

‘And the outcome (of defending) against an evil, (could be the formation) of an evil similar to it; so therefore whoever offers amnesty and reconciliation, then his reward shall be with Allah (Almighty)… ‘

This verse presents repair not as weakness, but as spiritually rewarding strength. 

It is recorded in Sunan Nisai, Hadith 4995, that the Holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘The Muslim is the one from whose tongue and hand the people are safe. ‘

This teaches that heartfelt reconciliation and safe speech are true markers of faith. 

After conflict, guide your child to recite: Rabbana hablana min azwajina wa dhurriyyatina qurrata a’yunin (Our Lord, grant harmony in our hearts). This reflection assists them in understanding reconciliation as a practice grounded in spirituality. 

During these times, your relationship is not only repaired but strengthened by trust, respect, and honest communication.