Parenting Perspective 

The demands of parenting can often feel heavy due to the combination of endless tasks, repeated corrections, and simple emotional fatigue. In such moments, it can be easy to forget that the true strength of parenting comes not from control or authority, but from mercy. Mercy has the power to soften the atmosphere of a home, making children more receptive to guidance and building a deep sense of trust. When you can remind yourself that every act of gentleness attracts the blessing (barakah) of Allah, you can begin to shift your perspective from seeing kindness as an optional ‘extra’ to recognising it as absolutely essential. 

Recall That Mercy Multiplies Goodness 

You can remind yourself, ‘When I choose to be gentle, Allah increases the goodness both in my child and in me.’ This simple reframing helps you to see mercy as a wise investment in your family’s long-term growth, not as a form of weakness. 

Use Mercy as a Conscious Parenting Anchor 

When you feel tempted to react with harshness, you can pause and repeat to yourself, ‘Rahmah brings barakah.’ A short, simple phrase like this can help to centre your response and calm your heart before you address your child. 

Reflect on Past Successes with Gentle Teaching 

Take a moment to think of times in the past when your patience and gentleness helped your child to learn a lesson far better than shouting ever could have done. You can use these memories as personal proof that a merciful path is the one that truly works. 

Connect Mercy to Your Daily Routines 

In all of your daily routines, whether it is during mealtimes, at bedtime, or when giving reminders for prayer, make a conscious choice to use warmth instead of harshness. Over time, these repeated acts of mercy help to form an atmosphere where your children associate their faith with a feeling of safety and love, not fear. 

View Every Act of Mercy as an Act of Worship 

Try to frame every act of kindness you show, whether it is a soft word, a reassuring hug, or a patient correction, as a direct offering to Allah. This beautiful perspective can transform the most ordinary moments of parenting into a source of immense barakah. 

Mercy does not erase the need for discipline, but it ensures that discipline is always delivered with love. This is what multiplies the trust, respect, and lasting benefit in a home. 

Spiritual Insight 

The Quran on Mercy as the Source of Purity 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Noor (24), Verses 21: 

‘…And had it not been for the benefaction of Allah (Almighty) and His mercy, none of you would have ever attained a state of purity…’ 

This verse shows us that without the mercy of Allah, none of us would be able to achieve a state of purity. When parents reflect on this profound truth, they can come to realise that just as Allah purifies us through His mercy, we must guide our own children through gentleness for true barakah to flow. 

Prophetic Guidance on Mercy to the Young 

It is recorded in Jami Tirmidhi, Hadith 1921, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘He who does not show mercy to our little ones and respect to our elders is not one of us.’ 

This hadith powerfully emphasises that the quality of mercy is central to our faith itself. When parents remind themselves of this, they begin to see mercy not as something optional, but as a direct prophetic command. By choosing to show mercy in your parenting, you are inviting barakah into every corner of your home, making your journey not only easier but also spiritually fruitful.