How do I prepare my child for situations where others lie and expect them to join in? 

Parenting Perspective 

It is inevitable that children will face situations where they are expected to lie along with their friends. Preparing them in advance can give them the confidence to choose honesty without feeling trapped. The goal is to equip them with both the right mindset and the right words to resist this kind of peer pressure. 

Practise Role-Playing at Home 

One of the most effective ways to prepare a child is through role-playing scenarios at home. You can practise simple, firm but polite responses, such as, ‘I do not feel comfortable lying about that.’ Having these phrases ready makes it much easier for a child to act with confidence when a real situation arises. 

Emphasise Long-Term Trust Over Short-Term Approval 

Help your child to understand that while lying might seem like an easy solution in the moment, it damages a person’s reputation over time. Explain that honesty builds long-term trust, which is far more valuable than short-term social approval. You can also let them know that it is always acceptable to simply walk away from a situation where they are being pressured to lie. 

Reassure Them of Your Support at Home 

It is vital to reassure your child that your home is a safe space for the truth. Let them know, ‘You will never be in trouble with me for being honest, no matter how difficult the situation is.’ This unconditional support at home gives them the security they need to be truthful with their peers outside the home. 

Spiritual Insight 

Uphold Justice, Even When It is Difficult 

Islam teaches that believers must not compromise their values for social approval. The Quran commands us to stand for justice and be truthful, even if it feels uncomfortable or puts us at odds with those around us. 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Maaidah (5), Verse 8: 

‘You who are believers, become steadfast (in your devotion) to Allah (Almighty), corroborating all of that which is just; and never let your hatred of any nation prevent you from being just, – let justice prevail…’ 

A Believer Avoids Dishonourable Behaviour 

The prophetic tradition teaches us that a true believer’s character is defined by honourable conduct. They avoid insults, cursing, and shamelessness, which includes joining in with falsehood. Honesty is a defining quality of faith, and believers are expected to stand apart from dishonest behaviour. 

It is recorded in Riyadh Al Saliheen, 1555, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘The believer is not one who insults others, curses others, or is indecent, or shameless.’ 

Honesty Brings Dignity and Trust 

By reminding your child that honesty is both a core family value and a command from Allah, you give them both confidence and spiritual grounding. They learn that staying truthful, even when others do not, is what brings true dignity, lasting trust, and closeness to Allah.