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 How do I manage tantrums from a child with speech delays?

Parenting Perspective

When a child experiences speech delays, they may feel frustrated due to their inability to communicate their needs or feelings effectively. This frustration can rapidly result in emotional outbursts. In these situations, tantrums often stem from a lack of understanding rather than an attempt to test limits. Helping a child with speech delays means fostering a setting where communication goes beyond just talking. Parents may utilise straightforward gestures, visual tools, and allow additional time for replies. 

Staying calm and attentive can assist a parent in recognising triggers, such as hunger, fatigue, or an unfulfilled need. Refrain from responding with harsh measures when you are at your most frustrated. Instead, assist the child once they are calm and encourage language use in a gentle manner. Collaborating with speech therapists or early educators can provide useful strategies to create a more responsive and less reactive home environment.

Spiritual Insight

In Islam, children’s diverse abilities are not seen as shortcomings but as opportunities for deeper compassion. Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Taghaabun (64), Verse 15: ‘…And your children are a trial and tribulation for you; and with Allah (Almighty) lays the greatest reward.’ This verse highlights parenting as a measure of character, particularly in how one reacts to challenges. A child’s speech delay is not a punishment; rather, it is an opportunity for patience, trust, and loving action.

It is recorded in Sahih Bukhari, Hadith 6125, that holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: ‘Make things easy for the people, and do not make it difficult for them, and make them calm (with glad tidings) and do not repulse (them ).’ Mercy involves recognising that a child’s silence should not be seen as rebellion, but rather as a sign of their limitations. By employing gentleness, consistency, and support, a parent can maintain Islamic principles of caring and nurturing. Supporting a child’s dignity is important for their growth and has a significant spiritual aspect as well.

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