How do I make sure my child is not left out of activities? 

Parenting Perspective 

Having an Open Conversation with the School 

One of the biggest worries for parents is seeing their child left out of classroom activities, school trips or playground games. It can feel heartbreaking, especially if your child already finds friendships or group tasks challenging. 

Start by having an open and calm conversation with your child’s teacher or the school’s SENCO. Explain what you have noticed, such as times when your child was alone or missed out because no adjustments were made. Many teachers truly want to help but may need practical ideas to make things better. 

Sharing Practical Ideas and Strategies 

Share what works well at home. For example, does your child need clear step-by-step instructions, extra time to process what is happening or a buddy system to feel more included? Suggest small changes that can make a big difference, like using visual timetables, giving warnings before transitions or providing quieter spaces during busy events. If your child has sensory needs, explain which activities can overwhelm them and what calming alternatives might help them join in more comfortably. 

Asking for Reasonable Adjustments 

You have every right to ask how the school plans to make reasonable adjustments so your child can feel fully part of the school community. Stay in touch with teachers and check how things are going. Encourage your child gently too, help them practise simple social skills and celebrate each brave step they take to join in. 

When home and schoolwork together, even a child who struggles with feeling included can grow to feel valued, supported and part of the group. 

Spiritual Insight 

Islam teaches us that each child is worthy of dignity and belonging, no child should feel invisible or pushed aside. Allah Almighty knows every tear shed by a child who feels left out and every ache in a parent’s heart who witnesses it. 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Hujuraat (49), Verse 10: 

‘The believers are but brothers, so make settlement between your brothers and fear Allah that you may receive mercy. ‘

This Ayah reminds us that unity, inclusion and kindness are part of our faith. 

It is recorded in Sunan Ibn Majah, Hadith 3671, that holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ stated: 

‘Be kind to children and perfect in your upbringing of them. ‘

This Hadith Shareef calls us to protect our children’s sense of belonging with gentleness and practical steps. Make sincere Dua that your child finds friends and teachers who notice their quiet courage and open their hearts to include them. Trust that your efforts, every meeting, every suggestion, every calm conversation, are seen by Allah Almighty, who is Al-Wakeel, the Best Disposer of Affairs. May He place Barakah in your child’s friendships and guide those around them to treat them with compassion. Remind your child that they are never alone, they belong first and foremost to the One who created them with wisdom, mercy and an honoured place in this Ummah.