How do I help my child talk about loneliness? 

Parenting Perspective 

Normalise the Feeling 

Loneliness can feel confusing and heavy for a child. They might have friends at school yet still feel alone inside, or they might struggle to connect because of shyness or feeling different. Many children hide this because they think saying ‘I feel lonely’ will make you worry or blame them. Start by letting your child know that loneliness is a normal feeling and does not mean they have done something wrong. Use gentle words: ‘Sometimes our heart feels lonely, even when people are around. You can always tell me when you feel this way.’ 

Understand and Offer Small Steps 

Ask gentle questions to understand when it happens most, at school, at home, or during quiet times. Help your child name the feeling without shame: ‘Is it like your heart feels empty, or you feel left out?’ Suggest tiny ways to reach out, such as smiling at someone new, asking a simple question, or spending more time with trusted family. Remind them that being alone sometimes is also healthy, but if the feeling grows heavy, they can always share it. Praise them when they ey open up about it; even a small whisper of ‘I feel lonely’ takes courage. Over time, these gentle talks help your child to see that loneliness is not a secret they must hide; it is something you will help them carry together. 

Spiritual Insight 

Islam teaches us that even when we feel alone, Allah Almighty is always near, holding every part of our heart. Allah Almighty says in the noble Quran at Surah Al Hadeed (57), Verse 4: 

‘..And He is always with you wherever you are….’ 

Share this Ayah with your child to remind them that they are never truly alone, no matter how quiet their world feels. 

It is recorded in Jami Tirmidhi, Hadith 3372, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘Dua is worship.’ 

Encourage your child to make a soft prayer when they feel lonely: ‘Ya Allah, keep me company and fill my heart with Your closeness.’ This gentle prayer teaches your child that loneliness can be a bridge to remembering Allah Almighty’s mercy. By listening without judgement, guiding them towards connection, and reminding them of their Lord’s nearness, you help your child see that loneliness is never the end of the story; their heart is held, always, by the One who understands them best.