How do I help my child talk about feeling scared in new environments? 

Parenting Perspective 

Name the Fear 

Children often feel scared when they visit new places—a relative’s house they have never seen, a new park, a large shop, or an unfamiliar community space. Their fear may come from not knowing what will happen, who they will see, or what is expected of them. If this fear stays bottled up, it can manifest as tears, clinginess, or a refusal to go. Start by helping your child to name the fear: ‘It is okay to feel scared when things are new. I am here to help you feel safe.’ 

Prepare and Practise 

Prepare your child beforehand with clear, gentle information. Describe where you are going, who they might meet, and what they can do if they feel nervous. Practise simple phrases they can say to you, such as, ‘I feel scared. Can I hold your hand?’ or ‘I need a break.’ Give them permission to stay close to you until they feel comfortable. Bringing a small comfort item, if possible, can feel like a soft anchor in a new place. Praise your child when they take even a small step to explore or speak up. Let them know that their fear does not mean they are not brave; it means they are human, and each new step is a sign of courage. Over time, these gentle moments help your child to trust that you see their fear and will guide them through it. 

Spiritual Insight 

Islam teaches us that our hearts find courage and calmness when we remember that Allah Almighty is always with us, wherever we go. Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Baqarah (2), Verse 286: 

‘Allah (Almighty) does not place any burden on any human being except that which is within his capacity….‘

This Ayah reminds your child that they are not alone with what scares them, and that Allah Almighty knows their hidden worries better than anyone. 

It is recorded in Jami Tirmidhi, Hadith 3372, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘Dua is worship.‘

Teach your child to whisper a simple Dua when they enter a new place: ‘Ya Allah, make this place good for me and help me feel safe.’ These words help to shift their fear towards trust in Allah Almighty’s protection. When your child sees you handle new places with calmness and hope, they learn that courage does not mean never feeling scared; it means trusting that Allah Almighty will guide their steps, one small moment at a time.