How do I help my child describe feelings when they have sensory overload? 

Parenting Perspective 

Recognise the Early Signs 

For many neurodiverse children, sensory overload can feel like the world is too loud, too bright, or too tight all at once. In these moments, your child may struggle to find any words for how they feel; they might cover their ears, run away, or have a meltdown instead. The first step is to help your child recognise the early signs of sensory overwhelm so they do not feel trapped inside it. Use simple, calm words: ‘Sometimes our body feels too full of noise or touch. That is called sensory overload.’ 

Offer Non-Verbal Tools 

Practise describing what this feels like in ways they can understand, for example, ‘like your head is buzzing,’ or, ‘like your clothes feel scratchy.’ You can offer tools that help them show you when this is happening. Some children like colour charts, hand signals, or a simple ‘help card’ they can hold up when they need space. Create a safe ‘calm corner’ at home with soft textures, dim lighting, or favourite sensory toys. Praise your child when they use any tool to share what they feel, even if it is not spoken out loud. Over time, these small supports help your child to trust that you will listen to what their body is saying, not just their words. 

Spiritual Insight 

Islam reminds us that Allah Almighty knows every hidden state of our hearts and bodies. He sees the struggles we cannot explain to others. Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Qaaf (50), Verse 16: 

‘And indeed, We have created mankind, and so We have full knowledge of all the (thoughts) he murmurs within himself; and We (Allah Almighty) are more closer to him than his jugular vein.‘

This Ayah can comfort your child by showing them that Allah Almighty understands their feelings, even when they do not have the words. 

It is recorded in Jami Tirmidhi, Hadith 3372, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ stated: 

‘Dua is worship. ‘

Teach your child to say a simple prayer when they feel sensory overwhelm building up: ‘Ya Allah, help my heart and my body feel calm.’ This gentle habit gives them a soft way to turn their feelings into trust. By making your home a safe place for them to express these big sensations, you show your child that their feelings are not too much; they are seen, held, and eased with your love and Allah Almighty’s perfect care.