How do I handle urgent work messages during playtime without making my child feel unimportant? 

Parenting Perspective 

Dealing with urgent work messages during playtime is challenging, as the demand for your attention is immediate, yet your child’s need for connection is just as valid. The solution is not to ignore the message, but to manage the interruption with care. If you must respond, communicate clearly and calmly with your child. For example, say, “I need to send a quick reply for work, and then I will be right back to our game.” This simple explanation reassures them that the break is temporary and they have not been forgotten. 

Creating Predictable Boundaries 

If work-related interruptions happen often, it helps to establish device-free “safe zones” for play. These are protected periods where you commit to putting your phone away completely, such as the first fifteen minutes after arriving home or during the wind-down before bed. These predictable boundaries build your child’s trust that your full attention is guaranteed to return to them. 

Involving Your Child in the Transition 

Whenever possible, empower your child by inviting them to choose the next activity for when you return. Asking, “What shall we play as soon as I am finished with this?” gives them a sense of control and helps them anticipate your reconnection, rather than focusing on the disruption. 

Spiritual Insight 

Islam places great emphasis on honesty and on fulfilling the responsibilities we have towards those under our care, especially our children. 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Anfaal (8), Verse 27: 

‘O you who are believers, do not ever be pretentious (in following the commandment) of Allah (Almighty) and His Prophet (Muhammad ﷺ); and do not misappropriate what has been entrusted upon you, whilst you know (the consequences of such actions)…’ 

This verse reminds us that protecting a child’s emotional well-being is a sacred trust (amanah). Being present and honest with them is part of honouring this responsibility. 

It is recorded in Sahih Muslim, Hadith 1829, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘Every one of you is a shepherd and every one of you will be asked about his flock.’ 

This powerful metaphor teaches us that our role as parents makes us guardians over our children. We are accountable for how we tend to their needs, including their need for our attention during small but significant moments like playtime. 

By handling work needs with transparency and always returning to your child with your full presence, you demonstrate that they are not being replaced by a device, but remain your most important priority.