How do I handle tantrums first thing in the morning before school or nursery?
Parenting Perspective
Mornings can pose significant challenges for both parents and children, particularly when time is limited and emotions are heightened. A child’s morning tantrum frequently indicates underlying emotions of fatigue, anxiety, or an unfulfilled need for connection or stability. At this developmental stage, children may lack the vocabulary or self-regulation abilities to articulate feelings of overwhelm, anxiety for the forthcoming day, or reluctance to go from a reassuring environment. Establishing a consistent, tranquil, and cohesive morning routine might diminish the probability of emotional outbursts. Visual routines, regular wake-up hours, and smooth transitions between chores can enhance children’s emotional security. Provide a five-minute notification before to each phase to mitigate resistance. Avoid haste, even when facing time constraints; instead, employ concise, explicit directives and a compassionate tone. In the event of a tantrum, respond with composed assertiveness; recognise the child’s feelings while directing them towards the subsequent necessary actions. The objective is not to eradicate all challenging emotions, but to assist the youngster in learning to regulate them within a reliable framework.
Spiritual Insight
From an Islamic perspective, the early morning holds immense spiritual and emotional value. Starting the day with remembrance of Allah Almighty sets a tone of calm, purpose, and presence. Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Al Muzzammil (73), Verse 6: ‘Indeed, rising (to worship) at night is more difficult, but more potent for focused recitation (of the remembrance of Allah Almighty).’ This verse talks about night prayer, but experts point out that the early part of the day is also important for spiritual well-being and can influence a person’s inner feelings. Beginning the day with a sense of calm and prayer can provide stability for both the parent and the child. Reciting a brief Dua or having soft Quranic recitation playing in the background during your morning routine can foster a calm atmosphere.
It is recorded in Sunan Ibn Majah, Book 12, Hadith 2238, that holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ made the following supplication: ‘O Allah, bless my nation early in the morning.’ This Hadith highlights the blessings found in the early hours of the day. Parents can find this blessing by using mornings to demonstrate self-control, kindness, and trust in Allah Almighty. When a tantrum occurs, it serves as a chance to exercise patience and to calmly direct the child, while drawing strength from the belief that parenting is a meaningful commitment. By establishing routines that emphasise kindness and reflection, even busy mornings can transform into opportunities for compassion and connection.
