How do I handle it when my child tells exaggerated stories as if they are real? 

Parenting Perspective 

Children often tell exaggerated stories, sometimes to entertain, and sometimes because they are still learning to separate imagination from reality. While it is not always a deliberate lie, it is important to gently guide them towards honesty without shaming their creative spirit. 

Differentiate Between Imagination and Dishonesty 

It is important to acknowledge your child’s creativity while clarifying the line between pretend and real. You can say, ‘That is a wonderful and imaginative story! Let’s agree that it is a make-believe tale, and then you can tell me what really happened.’ This approach validates their imagination without allowing untruths to be presented as facts. 

Give Attention Without Rewarding Falsehood 

Sometimes, exaggeration is simply a bid for attention. Ensure you are giving your child regular, positive attention for who they are, so they do not feel the need to invent stories to be noticed. You should also explain that when they present fantasies as truth, people may struggle to believe them later on. This teaches them that truth is what builds lasting trust. 

Offer Healthy Outlets for Creativity 

Provide plenty of opportunities where your child’s imagination is welcomed and celebrated, such as through drawing, creative writing, or role-play. This gives them a safe and appropriate space to express their creativity, helping them to distinguish between fun storytelling and real-life honesty. This balance teaches them that imagination is a gift, but honesty is the foundation of trust. 

Spiritual Insight 

Avoid All False Statements 

Islam values both truthfulness and creativity, but it warns strongly against presenting falsehood as fact. The Quran commands believers to avoid all forms of false statements, reminding us that even in small matters, honesty should be sacred. 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Hajj (22), Verse 30: 

‘…So, abstain from the loathsome beliefs and practices of idol worship; and abstain from making false statements.’ 

Do Not Lie to Make People Laugh 

The prophetic tradition gives a stern warning to those who tell lies, even for the sake of entertainment or to make people laugh. This teaches us that humour must never come at the expense of the truth. 

It is recorded in Jami Tirmidhi, 2315, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘Woe to him who tells lies to make people laugh. Woe to him, woe to him.’ 

Honesty as a Guiding Principle 

By helping your child see that honesty is a core value in both your family and your faith, while still celebrating their creativity, you can nurture a healthy balance. They will learn over time to express their imagination joyfully while keeping truthfulness as their guiding principle.