How do I handle it if my child seems proud or amused after a tantrum?

Islamic teachings offer a compassionate lens through which such behaviour can be understood. Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Shams (91), Verses 7–10: ‘Thus, We have designed (the soul with discretion) for wickedness and piety without any doubt success is for the one who developed purity (of the self) and indeed, failure is for the one who embraces (the darkness of ignorance and immorality).’ This verse highlights that developing our morals and emotional discipline is an ongoing journey throughout our lives. Children are still in the beginning phases of learning to manage their impulses.

It is recorded in Jami Tirmidhi, Hadith 1919, that holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ stated: ‘He is not one of us who does not have mercy on our young and does not respect our elders.’
This Hadith encourages parents to treat their children with kindness, understanding that they are still in the process of learning and are not fully responsible for their actions yet. Reacting to a smile after a tantrum with calmness, instead of doubt or reprimand, embodies this model from the Prophet. It provides an opportunity for adjustments without being overly severe. You can quietly request patience and understanding from Allah Almighty, aiming to demonstrate good character rather than exerting control. By doing this, you help your child develop their character while preserving their enthusiasm.