How do I get my child to join me in a game or activity when a device feels more exciting? 

Parenting Perspective 

It is understandable that a device, with its endless novelty and instant rewards, can often seem more exciting than offline activities. The goal is not to compete with the flashy nature of screens, but to offer something they cannot: genuine, hands-on connection. Try to invite your child into activities that align with their digital interests. For example, if they love building games, you could suggest a real-life LEGO challenge. If they enjoy creative apps, perhaps they would like to decorate cakes or paint canvases. 

Make the Invitation Irresistible 

How you invite them matters. Instead of a vague call to ‘come and play’, try to create an irresistible hook. Phrases like, ‘I really need your help with this project’, or, ‘I was hoping you could be the team captain for this game’, can make a world of difference. When a child feels that their skills are needed or that they have a sense of ownership, their willingness to join in often increases dramatically. 

Respect the Transition 

It is also important to respect the transition from their activity to yours. If they are in the middle of a game or a video, demanding that they stop immediately is likely to cause resistance. Instead, give them a clear timeframe, such as, ‘Please can you finish up in five minutes?’. This shows that you respect their engagement, which in turn makes them more receptive to engaging with you. 

Spiritual Insight 

Islamic teachings remind us that our time has a purpose beyond mere entertainment, and that small, consistent acts of connection are deeply valued. 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Anbiyaa (21), Verse 16: 

‘ And We (Allah Almighty) did not create the layers of trans-universal existence and the Earth, and whatever is within it, as (superficial) amusement…‘ 

This verse reminds us that creation itself has a profound purpose, inviting us to look beyond simple play and entertainment. In parenting, this means guiding our children towards purposeful play that nurtures skills, builds character, and strengthens relationships. 

It is recorded in Sahih Bukhari, Hadith 6464, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘The most beloved of actions to Allah are those performed consistently, even if they are few.’ 

Applying this beautiful principle to family life, we can understand that small but regular shared activities are more beloved and impactful than grand but rare events. This consistency can gradually make these moments of connection more meaningful to a child than the fleeting excitement of a screen.