How do I encourage my child to ask for help when they feel stuck? 

Parenting Perspective 

Normalise Asking for Help 

Many children feel shy or afraid to ask for help at school. They might worry about looking silly, bothering the teacher, or being teased by other pupils. Over time, this fear can make them fall behind or feel alone with their confusion. Start by telling your child clearly: ‘Needing help does not mean you are not clever. It means you are learning, and asking for help is how we grow.’ 

Practice and Role-Play 

Practise small, simple ways they can speak up when they are stuck. Use role-play at home: ‘What could you say if you do not understand the lesson?’ Show them phrases like, ‘I am a bit confused. Could you explain it again?’ or ‘Could you help me with this question?’ Some children feel braver writing their question on paper or waiting until break time to ask quietly. Talk with your child about who they trust most at school—perhaps a particular teacher, teaching assistant, or older buddy—and remind them it is okay to go to that person. Share your own examples of times you felt unsure and had to ask for help. Praise your child for every small effort, even if they only whisper a question. These small moments build courage step by step. 

Spiritual Insight 

Islam honours the act of seeking knowledge and asking questions with sincerity. Allah Almighty encourages us to ask when we do not know, rather than stay silent. Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Nahal (16), Verse 43: 

‘…So (always) question the people of realisation, if you find yourselves unaware of (anything).‘

Remind your child that their questions are never something to feel embarrassed about; they are a sign of a curious, honest heart. 

It is recorded in Sunan Ibn Majah, Hadith 225, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘Whoever follows a path in the pursuit of knowledge, Allah will make easy for him a path to Paradise. ‘

Share this with your child to show that every small question they ask brings them closer to understanding and closer to Allah Almighty’s blessings. You can help them make a short Dua before lessons: ‘Ya Allah, help me find the courage to ask when I do not know.’ Over time, they will see that asking for help is not a weakness but a sign of strength, trust, and Tawakkul, and that Allah Almighty loves the heart that seeks to grow.