Parenting Perspective 

It is essential for a child to learn how to ask for help before their feelings become too intense. Numerous young children do not have the words or understanding to identify and communicate their frustration at an early stage. They might choose to express themselves through crying, yelling, or having a tantrum. 

Parents should start by demonstrating calm and clear communication while being attentive to the initial signs of their child’s distress. 

Prompting Help Early 

If your child appears upset while working on a task, you might say, ‘It looks like this is difficult; do you want some assistance?’ 

Strategies to support early help‑seeking: 

• Offer calm verbal prompts that normalise asking for help. 

• Use basic emotion charts or hand signals to guide non‑verbal children. 

• Teach simple phrases like ‘Please help me’ or ‘I do not know how to do this.’ 

Regular support and recognition when your child makes even minor efforts to communicate their needs can slowly change the tendency for outbursts. Developing this ability takes time and demands patience; it is a skill cultivated through consistent daily experiences, not only in stressful situations. 

Spiritual Insight 

Islamic teachings deeply value the act of turning to others for help in times of difficulty, beginning with reliance upon Allah Almighty Himself. 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Inshirah (94), Verses 5–6: 

Thus with (every) hardship there is facilitation (from Allah Almighty). Indeed, with (every) hardship there is facilitation (from Allah Almighty). 

This verse offers comfort to both parents and children; it reminds us moments of struggle are not permanent and that relief follows when we seek it in the right way. 

The holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ demonstrated compassion when children expressed frustration or difficulty. 

It is recorded in Jami Tirmidhi, Hadith 1921, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ stated: 

He is not one of us who does not have mercy upon our young, respect our elders, and command good and forbid evil. 

This Hadith emphasises that teaching children with kindness, instead of punishment or criticism, aligns with the Prophetic approach. 

When a child seeks help rather than misbehaving, even after facing challenges in the past, it indicates progress that deserves a compassionate response. 

Encouraging this change with praise, trust, and Dua is part of nurturing character aligned with Sabr and emotional awareness. 

Parents should regularly ask Allah Almighty for wisdom and patience and teach their children to make Dua for calmness and understanding, strengthening their spiritual foundation in everyday moments.