How do I deal with resistance when I try to shift bedtime away from screen routines? 

Parenting Perspective 

Children naturally resist changes to familiar bedtime habits, especially if a screen has become their primary tool for winding down. The transition to a screen-free routine requires patience and structure, with a clear alternative that feels comforting enough to replace the old habit. 

Prepare Them for the Change in Advance 

Prevent the shock of a sudden change by letting them know in the afternoon what to expect later on. A simple heads-up like, ‘Tonight, instead of watching a video before bed, we are going to read that new library book,’ gives them time to mentally prepare for the shift. This small act of respect can prevent a great deal of conflict. 

Offer a Gradual ‘Step-Down’ Approach 

If your child is accustomed to a long or stimulating show, you can ease the transition with a ‘step-down’ approach. For a few nights, replace their usual programme with a shorter, much calmer video. After that, you can swap it entirely for a non-screen routine, such as reading or quiet drawing. This gradual removal is often much easier for a child to accept than an abrupt ban. 

Make the New Routine Genuinely Appealing 

The new bedtime activity should be something your child can genuinely look forward to, not just a rule they must follow. Choose activities that you can associate with warmth and connection, such as reading a favourite story with engaging voices, having a short, cosy chat under the covers, or sharing a special dua together. Your own enthusiasm is contagious. 

Hold the Boundary with Warmth 

You should expect some protests at first; this is a normal part of any change in routine. The key is to respond with calm warmth, not with frustration. Acknowledge their feelings by saying, ‘I know it is hard to change our routine,’ but then gently and consistently hold the new boundary. Over time, as they learn to trust it, the new routine will become the new normal. 

By replacing screens with gentle and engaging activities, you teach your child that bedtime can still feel soothing and secure without the need for digital stimulation. 

Spiritual Insight 

In the Islamic tradition, bedtime is a sacred opportunity to end the day with remembrance, gratitude, and a sense of peace. 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Rome (30), Verse 17: 

‘So glorify Allah (Almighty), when you reach the evening (prayers of Maghrib and Isha) and when you reach the morning (prayer of Fajr)…’ 

This verse reminds us that the close of the day is a designated time for spiritual reflection and turning towards Allah, rather than a time for worldly distraction. 

It is recorded in Sahih al-Bukhari, Hadith 6311, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘When you go to bed, say: “O Allah, in Your name I live and die”.’ 

This beautiful supplication teaches us to approach the state of sleep with a conscious sense of mindfulness and a direct connection to Allah. By helping your child shift to screen-free evenings, you are not just improving their quality of rest; you are creating a precious space for the kind of calm, faith-filled endings to the day that strengthen both their heart and yours.