How do I connect good role models to daily family life? 

Parenting Perspective 

Children internalise lessons most effectively when they are woven into the fabric of daily life, not just presented as abstract ideas. The examples set by good role models, whether from our faith or community, should be connected to everyday routines and choices. This approach helps a child see that noble qualities are not for distant figures but are practical virtues to be lived out at home. 

Turn Stories into Practical Actions 

After sharing a story about a righteous individual, immediately bridge the gap between their example and your child’s own life. The goal is practical application. 

• You could ask, ‘Prophet Yusuf forgave his brothers after they were unkind. How can we show that same forgiveness when a sibling takes our toy?’ 

• Or suggest, ‘Your grandfather was known for always speaking kindly. Can we all practise speaking with that same kindness at the dinner table tonight?’ 

Highlight Role Models Within the Family 

Point out the positive examples already present within your own family. These living examples are often the most influential. 

• A sibling who helps with chores without being asked. 

• A grandparent who is consistent with their daily prayers. 

• A parent who remains calm and patient during a stressful moment. 

Reinforce this by saying, ‘That is a wonderful example for all of us to follow in our home.’ 

Weave Lessons into Daily Routines 

Integrate the values of good role models into your family’s ordinary habits. This shows that good character is a part of normal life, not reserved for special occasions. 

• When setting the table for a meal, you can talk about the importance of generosity and serving others. 

• While tidying up together, you can remind them that cleanliness is a trait of a good believer. 

• During playtime, you can connect the act of sharing toys to the principles of fairness and compassion. 

Encourage Daily Reflection 

Create moments for your child to think about the positive examples they have seen. This makes their admiration for good character more personal and consistent. 

• At bedtime or during a quiet family meal, ask gentle questions like, ‘Who was a good role model for you today?’ 

• Or, ‘What is a good example you noticed someone in our family set today?’ 

This consistent reinforcement helps them actively look for and appreciate goodness around them. 

Spiritual Insight 

Guidance from the Quran 

Islam teaches that a parent’s primary responsibility is to nurture and guide their family towards righteousness. 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Tahreem (66), Verse 6: 

‘O you who are believers, protect yourselves and your families from a Fire (of Jahannam) whose fuel is people and stones…’ 

This powerful verse reminds parents of their profound responsibility to guide their families. Integrating the examples of good role models into daily home life is a direct and practical way of fulfilling this duty, nurturing your children towards righteousness and protecting them. 

Guidance from the Hadith 

The Prophet Muhammad ﷺ emphasised that the true measure of a person’s character is reflected in their conduct at home. 

It is recorded in Riyadh Al Saliheen, Hadith 278, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘The best of you are those who are best to their families.’ 

This Hadith highlights that good character begins in the family. By linking admirable role models to everyday interactions at home, you teach your child that being kind, honest, and patient with their loved ones is the truest and most important expression of faith.