Parenting Perspective 

Children are motivated far more by love than by rules. To truly inspire a deep-seated commitment to honesty, we can frame it not as a mere obligation, but as a direct path to earning the love of Allah. This transforms truthfulness from a heavy duty into a beautiful act of devotion that brings warmth, blessings, and a feeling of closeness to God. 

Frame Honesty as a Path to Allah’s Love 

Use warm and encouraging language. You can say, ‘Every time you choose to be honest, you are taking a step closer to Allah. He loves those who are truthful.’ This presents honesty as an act that strengthens their most important relationship. 

Connect Their Honesty to Divine Pleasure 

When they are honest, especially when it is difficult, celebrate it as a spiritual victory. A simple affirmation like, ‘That was a brave and honest thing to do. I am so proud of you, and imagine how pleased Allah must be!’ links their good deed directly to divine approval. 

Relate Spiritual Blessings to Worldly Benefits 

Help them see how Allah’s love translates into real-world blessings. Explain, ‘When Allah loves and trusts you for being honest, He puts trust for you in other people’s hearts too. That is one of the ways He shows His love.’ 

Emphasise the Emotional Rewards 

Guide them to recognise the inner peace that comes from honesty. Ask them, ‘Does not it feel good inside to have nothing to hide?’ Explain that this feeling of lightness and peace is a gift and a sign of Allah’s blessing for being truthful. 

By focusing on love, nearness, and the peace that honesty brings, you help your child embrace truthfulness as a cherished act of faith. 

Spiritual Insight 

In Islam, truthfulness (sadaqa) is not merely a social virtue but one of the most beloved qualities a servant can possess. Teaching this connection helps a child move from fearing the consequences of lying to joyfully seeking the rewards of honesty. 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Ahzaab (33), Verse 70–71: 

‘ O those of you, who are believers, seek piety from Allah (Almighty) and always speak with words of blatant accuracy. (Thereupon Allah Almighty) shall rectify your deeds for you, and shall forgive your sin…’ 

This beautiful promise from Allah shows that truthful speech is a direct cause of divine assistance. When we are honest, Allah Himself intervenes to correct our affairs and forgive our shortcomings. 

It is recorded in Sahih Muslim, Hadith 1015, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘Verily, Allah is pure and He accepts only what is pure. And verily Allah has commanded the believers to do that which He has commanded the Messengers.’ 

This hadith teaches us that Allah’s standard is one of purity, and truthfulness is among the purest of deeds. By being honest, we offer Allah an action that He loves and accepts, aligning ourselves with the standard set for the Prophets. 

By connecting honesty to Allah’s love, you give your child a powerful reason to value it, not as a burden but as a blessing. Over time, they will learn that truthfulness is a pathway to being loved, protected, and honoured by Allah Almighty.