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- Should I comfort my child after a tantrum, or stick to enforcing consequences
- What should I avoid doing that might accidentally make tantrums worse?
- How do I stop tantrums becoming a habit whenever my child wants something?
- Should I use time-outs for tantrums or is there a better way?
- What kind of discipline strategies work for tantrums without shaming the child?
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- How can I help my child learn to manage their emotions before they explode?
- How can I teach calming techniques to a very young child?
- How can I teach my child to take deep breaths or count when upset?
- How do I calm my child down when they are having a full-blown meltdown?
- What are helpful things to say during a tantrum to make my child feel seen?
- How do I encourage my child to ask for help instead of melting down?
- How do I explain to my child that it is okay to feel upset, but not to act out?
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- What can I do when my child starts screaming or crying the moment I say ‘no’ to something they want?
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- What can I do when my child starts screaming or crying the moment I say ‘no’ to something they want?
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How do I calm my child down when they are having a full-blown meltdown?
Parenting Perspective
Meltdowns represent a typical, though challenging, aspect of a child’s developmental process. During moments of significant distress, a child may experience an overwhelming surge of emotions, including frustration, fatigue, or fear. In these instances, individuals are not attempting to challenge limits; instead, they are conveying feelings for which they currently lack the necessary coping mechanisms. It is imperative for a parent to maintain composure in such situations. An adult demeanour characterised by calmness serves to convey a sense of safety and can effectively de-escalate situations without resorting to shouting, shaming, or abrupt responses.
It is appropriate to refrain from engaging in reasoning with the child during a meltdown, as their cognitive processes are currently influenced by an elevated emotional state, rendering them neither receptive nor rational. Rather, prioritise the establishment of an environment characterised by containment and predictability. Minimise sensory stimuli, modulate your vocal tone, and maintain a physical proximity that is respectful yet unobtrusive. It is beneficial to articulate clearly your observations: ‘You appear to be quite distressed.’ I am present. Your safety is assured. Following the conclusion of the episode, it is advisable to allow for a period of recovery before engaging in a concise discussion to identify the events that transpired and to facilitate the development of more constructive responses moving forward. This provides the child with essential reassurance while simultaneously fostering their emotional literacy in a gradual manner.
Spiritual Insight
In Islamic tradition, managing emotions is closely connected to the principles of Sabr (patience), Rahmah (mercy), and Taqwa (awareness of God). Dealing with tantrums in parenting presents not just a challenge, but also a chance to demonstrate important values in action. Children observe and absorb our reactions, especially during their most sensitive moments. Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Furqan (25), Verse 63: ‘And the true servants of the One Who is Most Beneficent are those who wander around the Earth with humility; and when they are addressed by the ignorant people, they say: “peace be unto you”.’ This verse reminds us of the virtue of calmness in the face of intense emotional displays. It is a model for how to respond when confronted with heightened or irrational emotions, including those from our children. It is recorded in Sahih Bukhari, Hadith 6114, that holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ stated: ‘The strong man is not the one who can wrestle, but the one who controls himself when he is angry.’ Teaching this strength to our children starts with embodying it ourselves, especially during moments of crisis. After a meltdown, calmly offering a short Dua together, such as ‘Rabbi inni maghloobun fantasir’ (O my Lord, I am overwhelmed, so help me), can create an association between emotional struggle and spiritual grounding. Such practices foster spiritual resilience over time and remind both parent and child that the path of Sabr is not passive, but deeply transformative.