How do I answer people who say my child will not learn social skills? 

Parenting Perspective 

Shifting the Focus to Meaningful Interactions 

It can feel frustrating as a home-schooling parent when people who do not fully understand your choices say things like, ‘Your child will never be normal or have good social skills.’ The truth is, healthy social development does not depend on overcrowded classrooms, it grows through meaningful, guided interactions in safe, calm spaces. 

Explaining Your Purposeful Approach 

If you hear such comments, try not to become defensive. Instead, use the moment to share how you purposefully create opportunities for your child to socialise and learn good character. Talk about the playdates you organise, the clubs or activities you join, and how you take part in Masjid events or invite family and neighbours around. Explain that in smaller, calmer groups, children practise sharing, taking turns, resolving conflicts, and developing empathy in a way that often feels more supportive than a hectic playground. 

Emphasising Quality Over Quantity 

Gently remind others that quality often matters more than quantity when it comes to social interaction. Be proud of the unique advantage your child has, they learn manners, kindness, and respect while you are close enough to guide them, rather than picking up habits you might need to unteach later. Stay calm and positive when responding; your quiet confidence shows you are shaping your child’s character thoughtfully, not stepping away from your responsibility. Over time, others will see for themselves that your child is growing into a confident, kind, and capable young person, InshaAllah. 

Spiritual Insight 

Islam teaches us that every question about our parenting is a chance to renew our intentions and reflect on our duty as shepherds of our children’s hearts and minds. 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Baqarah (2), Verse 286: 

‘Allah does not burden a soul beyond that it can bear… ‘

This reminds us that every family’s path is different, what works for one may not suit another. 

It is recorded in Jami Tirmidhi, Hadith 2138, that holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ stated: 

‘Every child is born upon the Fitrah. Then his parents make him a Jew, a Christian, or a Magian. ‘

This Hadith Shareef highlights that the greatest influence on a child’s development comes from their home. Social skills are learned first through observing kindness, patience, and fairness at home, not just through playground noise. Make Dua that Allah Almighty keeps your heart strong when others criticise your choice. Model graciousness by answering questions with respect rather than anger. Gently share how your family makes friends intentionally and values small, trusting circles over careless crowds. Show your child that you do not measure their worth by others’ opinions, but by how they grow in character and sincerity. Over time, your child will learn that real confidence is not found in following the crowd, but in knowing their purpose and pleasing Allah Almighty above all. This is the best answer you can offer, through calm words, visible actions, and quiet faith in your path.