How can we stop our child from casually using slang or inappropriate humour online that they would never use face-to-face? 

Parenting Perspective 

The apparent distance of a screen can sometimes make children feel free to use language they would never use in person. It is important to gently remind them that the same standards of respect and kindness apply in all their interactions. 

Highlight the Gap Between Online and Real-Life Manners 

Explain that our standards of good manners do not change just because we are behind a screen. Remind them that the impact of their words is just as real, even if they cannot see the other person’s face. 

Discuss the Power of Words 

Help them to understand that sarcasm and jokes do not always translate well online. A comment that seems funny in their head might come across as hurtful or disrespectful to someone else. It is a lesson in thinking about how others might feel. 

Encourage Self-Checking Before Posting 

Give them a simple filter to use before they post anything. Teach them to pause and ask, ‘Would I be comfortable saying this out loud in front of our family?’ If the answer is no, it should not be typed. This builds a strong internal sense of accountability. 

Model Respectful Communication 

Your own online communication is a powerful model. When your children see you writing with kindness and respect, they learn far more than they would from any lecture. Your quiet example sets the standard. 

These conversations help to build a foundation of mindful and respectful digital communication. 

Spiritual Insight 

Islam teaches that every word we utter, whether spoken or typed, is significant and will be accounted for. This principle of accountability is a powerful guide for our online conduct. 

Accountability for Every Word 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Qaf (50), Verse 18: 

‘He utters no word except that with him is an observer prepared [to record]…’ 

This teaches children that every word, whether spoken in person or typed online, is recorded and has consequences. 

Modesty as a Universal Virtue 

It is recorded in Sunan Ibn Majah, Hadith 4181, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘Indeed, every religion has a distinct characteristic, and the distinct characteristic of Islam is modesty (Haya’).’ 

This teaches us that modesty is a defining quality of our faith. It should guide our sense of humour and the language we use in all our interactions, ensuring our conduct is always dignified.